Ep. 20 - Time has NOTHING to do with getting over him
How to Get Over Your Ex
Dorothy AB Johnson
4.7 • 577 Ratings
🗓️ 10 February 2020
⏱️ 14 minutes
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Summary
Time has nothing to do with getting over your ex. Most people will say, "it's just going to take some time for your heart to heal" but I'm here to tell you that's ALL WRONG. After going through my own experience and spending years of helping women through breakups and divorce I know without a doubt time has nothing to do with it, but I know what does. Join me today as I explain this concept and what you can do about it.
In this episode:
- Why time has nothing to do with heartbreak
- What actually does have to do with heartbreak
- What to do instead of focusing on time
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 20. |
| 0:04.9 | Time has nothing to do with getting over him. |
| 0:18.5 | Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time. |
| 0:24.7 | I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy. |
| 0:26.9 | Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy. |
| 0:33.9 | Welcome, Braveheart's. |
| 0:35.8 | It is a beautiful day here in Boston. I am back from Bali. So let me tell you I have all kinds of thoughts about being in Boston from Bali. But today we are here to talk about your favorite tagline of mine. It doesn't have to just take time. |
| 0:55.4 | I say this all the time guys because honestly, the entire time I was going through my breakup, |
| 1:02.3 | I was told it's just going to take time for you to heal your heart. |
| 1:05.5 | Like it's just going to take some time. |
| 1:07.5 | And literally almost everyone told me that. |
| 1:09.7 | And at first I was like okay I get that I understand |
| 1:13.6 | but at the same time I was doing all of the things just in case there was any way I could speed it up |
| 1:20.3 | because I think at the time too there was like for some reason I had like subscribed to some belief around |
| 1:25.5 | you know you date someone for six years so it's going to take half that time to get over them and at that point it was seven years so it was going to take me three and a half years and I was like no I don't have time for that right so I was like I'm going to do all of the other things um so I traveled right I meditated I got in the best shape of my life all of it. I was trying to do all of the things and I googled how to get over your ex. And I did everything listed. But at the same time, everyone kept telling me it's just going to take time. But here's the crazy part, right? A year later, I still felt terrible. And here is why. Time has nothing to do with feeling better our thoughts create our feelings |
| 2:06.5 | right i run this home every single episode but our thoughts the sentences going on in our brain |
| 2:14.3 | is what creates how we feel right and? And the best way that I like to |
| 2:20.7 | describe that is if, you know, my partner comes to me and says, I love you, Dorothy. It's, I don't feel |
| 2:26.1 | love because he's saying that. I feel love because of my thoughts and interpretation of those |
| 2:30.8 | words from that person. Because if he came to you, you would be like, |
| 2:34.9 | I don't know who you are and this is weird and I feel weird. |
| 2:38.2 | And you'd have a lot of different thoughts and opinions about the very, the same, very, |
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