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So last week, we discussed the surprising research that showed having more relationship experience is linked to having a less happy marriage later on.

Pretty provocative finding, actually. And it's in direct opposition to the popular advice that parents pass on to their young adult children today,

that they shouldn't get married to the first person they fall in love with and should instead

wait until later in life to get married and stay focused on their career.

The problem with this narrative is that it leaves women and men for that matter with no guidance about how to live or specifically

how to date in the meantime. Because if you harbor the mindset that marriage is not the goal or not

the priority, then while you're dating around in the meantime, you have no roadmap for how to

proceed. I agree with Matt Walsh, who I quoted last

week, that there's really no point in dating if you have no end goal in mind. I mean, dating for fun

would be okay if we lived in an era where sex wasn't such a free-for-all or presumed to be

part of the dating experience. If you're not getting physical with a person,

you can technically date several men at once for so-called fun or women at once.

But with casual sex normalized in what we've dubbed hookup culture,

this isn't possible,

which is why there's really no point in dating until or unless you do it

with an eye toward marriage. I think that's why dating has become such a mess for young people

today. They have no compass whatsoever. All the old rules have gone out the window and they're

just flailing about. It's pointless and it's exhausting.

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