Hello and welcome to Happier, a podcast that gives you strategies and tips for how to build

happier habits into your daily life.

This week we'll talk about why you might want to identify your pace-heter and we'll also

discuss a common challenge, drinking less alcohol.

I'm Gretchen Rubin, a writer whose studies happiness, good habit in human nature.

I'm in New York City and with me, from the Disney Lot in Los Angeles, is a list of craft.

Who is in some ways my pace-heter?

That's me, Elizabeth Kraft, a TV writer and producer, living in LA and Gretchen.

I have to say I would call you the ultimate pace-heter.

So I want to hear how I could possibly be your pace-heter.

Yes, yes.

What is it to be a pace-heter?

But before we jump into the credits at home for this week, we have an update from Jill.

Jill says, I've been wanting to email to say thanks ever since you posted my question

on the podcast in episode 177 regarding demanding neighbors and working from home.

But I figured I should try some of your tips before providing an update.

First, there's something to be said for providing validation to an obliger.

The sheer validation that neighbors and family asking a person to watch their kids or let

out their dogs in the middle of the workday is a big ask, was enough to give me the courage

to say no.

Thank you for that.

So, for the past two months, I've been saying no.

...