It's like, it's a command to just like forgive quickly, forgive, you know, and understand and lean in and have short accounts.

Hey guys, welcome to the five-minute fatherhood podcast. I'm your co-host, Jeff Bethke, along with my friend and mentor, Jeremy Pryor.

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What's up, guys? Welcome to another five-minute fatherhood. So I have a question for you to think

about, and that is

how long does it take you and your wife to recover from a fight your typical conflict or fight

where you disagreed you both got angry how long do you stew that's a really really important thing

to think about and to figure out how do you shrink

the amount of time you spend stewing after a conflict. And this is really, I've noticed in a lot of

marriages, you know, this can be really tough the first, you know, five, ten years. But when you

start to figure this out, and you start to figure out the patterns that

help you recover, and you start to recover much more quickly, it has a really dramatic

impact on your family, on your parenting, on your ability to really get back into the

game as a dad and as a mom.

And this really came to mind when I was reading from a psychologist, David Ludin, who's

got a PhD in psychology, and he said, there are couples that fight frequently and vigorously,

only to fall in love all over again after the storm is passed. And then there are couples that

maintain a cold war state, no open hostilities, but lingering resentment

and no progress toward resolving the issues. And then he cited a study where they said the

findings in this study corroborate extensive research showing that actively repairing the

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