You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex episode number 179 when you want to be there already.

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Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time.

I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy. Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy.

Hello, hello, beautiful brave hearts. How are you doing? I'm so excited to be here with you today we are talking about

kind of two concepts that are tied together we're talking about the 50 50 concept and we're talking

about when we just want to be there already whether that's i want to be married already i want to have a family already i want to have a family already just want to be there already, whether that's I want to be married already,

I want to have a family already, I want to have babies already, I just like want to be there.

Maybe that's in your career.

I just want to have the home that I want.

I just want to have this career that I want so bad.

And the 50-50 concept was crafted by my coach, Brooke Castillo at the Life Coach School.

I learned it through life coach certification.

But it's really all about how life is always 50-50, meaning 50% positive, 50% negative.

So no matter what's going on we're experiencing 50

percent negative emotion and 50 percent positive emotion we're never going to get to a

place where everything is just rainbows and daisies all of the time there will

always be a contrast so when we talk about break, I think a lot of times we think, you know,

if only I had my ex back, I'd feel better. If only I hadn't acted this way, I'd feel better

about the breakup. I also get a lot of people who say, if only my ex was nice, this would be

easier. Or if only my ex was an asshole, this would be

easier. And we always think that if our circumstances in life were different, we'd get to

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