Ep. 170: I Kissed Dating Goodbye
Leaving Eden Podcast
Leaving Eden LLC
4.5 • 709 Ratings
🗓️ 19 February 2024
⏱️ 115 minutes
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Summary
Today we discuss "I Kissed Dating Goodbye," by Joshua Harris. This book, published in 1997, became the definitive guide to dating within purity culture in the evangelical movement from the late 1990s through the 2010s. While Joshua Harris has since disavowed all of the teachings of this book, the fear-based approach to dating and purity culture lives on.
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| 0:00.0 | No rolling river of time. |
| 0:07.0 | You've healed me in too many days. |
| 0:13.0 | No regrets, no confusion. |
| 0:18.0 | There'll be no pollution. I'm so thankful i've decided to change my ways |
| 0:30.1 | welcome back to the leaving eden podcast we are your hosts sadie carp always, cult expert, cult survivor is here with you today. |
| 0:40.1 | And my name is Gabriel Huckoan. |
| 0:42.5 | I survived purity culture and we're going to talk about it. |
| 0:47.6 | Today we are talking about I Kiss dating goodbye, which Sadie, do you want to talk about what this book is and what this book |
| 0:56.9 | meant to the evangelical movement? Yeah, absolutely. I Kiss Dating Goodbye is a book by Joshua |
| 1:04.9 | Harris. It was published first in 1997, and it is the seminal text of 2000s evangelical purity culture. Before this book came out, |
| 1:15.7 | we had the True Love Wates movement. Purity rings were already a thing. The idea of not having |
| 1:21.9 | sex until marriage was very common among evangelicals. But this book widely popularized some of the most toxic ideas of purity culture, |
| 1:33.3 | like the slippery slope idea and the guard your heart idea, the give the pieces of your heart away, that concept. |
| 1:39.3 | This book didn't invent any of this, and it didn't invent purity culture. |
| 1:47.9 | But it birthed an entire era of it. |
| 1:52.8 | Yeah, I got the sense from reading this book that these were a bunch of ideas that already existed, |
| 1:56.3 | and this was just kind of a compilation of those into one thing. |
| 2:00.6 | Yes, with a handsome young face on the back and written from a peer perspective. |
| 2:06.0 | And late 90s and early 2000s evangelical teenagers really get it up. |
| 2:11.6 | Next week, actually, we are going to be talking, I guess, not entirely about Joshua Harris as well, but his ex-wife, |
| 2:22.9 | Shannon Harris, has written a book called The Woman They Wanted, and we've both read that book. |
| 2:29.6 | And we both loved it. We both thought it was fantastic as far as deconstruction memoirs go. |
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