Ep. 16 | Diddy aka Did He or Did She feat. Jason "Jah" Lee

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🗓️ 27 May 2025

⏱️ 77 minutes

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Summary

In this powerful and necessary conversation on Selective Ignorance, Mandii B joined by special guest Jason "Jah" Lee (Bossip, CNN) alongside A-King and Jayson Rodriguez take a close look at the ongoing Diddy trial and the broader conversations it has sparked around consent, abuse, and accountability—especially when wealth and celebrity are involved.

The episode opens with a personal [00:00] introduction and book announcement, a quick recap of the Joey Bada$$ vs. The West Coast rap battle before diving into [02:48] the public perception surrounding the allegations against Diddy. Mandii explores how narratives are shaped by media coverage, and the often unfair scrutiny survivors face compared to their abusers. From there, the conversation moves into [05:53] the role of consent in relationships, with a clear and honest discussion on how power dynamics complicate the idea of choice. [08:55] Cassie’s testimony becomes a central focus, prompting a larger reflection on the emotional toll of sharing traumatic experiences in the public eye.

The episode continues with a critical look at [12:08] how wealth and status can insulate abusers from accountability, and [15:04] the difficult conversations around victimhood, responsibility, and survival. Mandii also delves into [17:58] the gray areas of kink, coercion, and consent misunderstandings, pushing back on society’s tendency to oversimplify complex situations.

The discussion takes a cultural turn with [20:45] a look at the broader repercussions of abuse in our communities, including [24:01] how gender plays a major role in how victims are viewed and treated. Mandii reflects on [27:13] how society must do more to protect survivors, not silence them. As the conversation deepens, the episode explores [29:58] the need for self-reflection, compassion, and cultural change. It then transitions to [39:19] how apologies and accountability are often performative, especially in the spotlight, and [42:07] how misogyny continues to shape the perception of women in these narratives.

Mandii and the team unpack [45:08] the toxic impact of celebrity culture, [52:51] how jealousy plays into relationships, and [59:15] the public’s ongoing obsession with fame, asking how it distorts our values and responses to harm. The episode closes with [01:03:25] a forward-looking discussion on what real justice and accountability could look like, both in the court of law and in our everyday lives.

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0:00.0	Hey guys, before we get to this week's episode of Selective Ignorance, I want to make sure I let
0:05.1	y'all know that I have a book coming out. That's right. No Holes barred, a dual manifesto
0:10.1	of sexual exploration and power is available now for pre-order. Help your girl become a New York
0:16.0	Times bestseller while purchasing my book. It does release June 24th, and so that is when it will hit the mailboxes and come your way.
0:23.6	But go ahead and pre-order now.
0:25.8	You can get it wherever you purchase your books.
0:28.7	We also have the audio version available on Audible.
0:31.9	So go ahead and get your pre-order now of No Holds, BARD, a dual manifesto of sexual exploration and power. Now, let's get to the show.
0:41.0	All right, let's get into the mess. I'm your girl, Mandy B, and we are talking about it, and I'm not here to play it safe.
0:48.8	We are entering the third week of the chaos that is the Diddy's trial, and already the streets are louder than the
0:54.9	courtroom, allegations flying, videos leaking, reputations unraveling, and yet the biggest
1:01.1	question on everybody's lips ain't even about Diddy's guilt? Nope, it's, was Cassie really a victim?
1:08.7	Or was she just down with the freaky shit? Like, what are we talking about?
1:13.1	Here we have a woman coming forward with graphic, disturbing details, claims that involve control, abuse, and yes, freakoffs.
1:20.2	And instead of asking what kind of man orchestrates that kind of lifestyle and who gets harmed in the process,
1:26.2	folks are out here debating if Cassie was just
1:28.5	a consenting adult with kinks. As if sharing a bedroom fantasy automatically means you're
1:34.2	consenting to being trafficked, beaten, or coerced. So let's get selective with our ignorance
1:39.2	real quick because we need to talk about the fact that people are way more comfortable
1:43.3	scrutinizing her behavior than questioning his.
1:47.4	I'm seeing think pieces on Twitter threads, trying to paint Cassie, like she was just going along with it for the lifestyle,
1:54.5	that she stayed because of the money, the clout, the red carpets, that maybe she liked the power dynamic.
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