But we always ask the question, is there a way to do this in a restful way?

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What's up guys, Jeff and Jeremy here, another episode of Five Minute Fatherhood. One thing we talk

about a lot is rest. It can sometimes mean Sabbath, Shabbat rest, or just rest in general, a rhythm of rest and work, how to do that. It's vital and important if you're going to have a healthy family team that you understand how to fill your family's tank. You understand how to rest right. One of the primary problems we see in the Western family is chaos, is burnout, is basically, you know, being chickens running around with your heads cut off, and then just tapping out. And so rest is vital. It's something we all need. But one question we got is how do you rest on the weekends, which is usually most people's rest time when you have all these weekend commitments? Or I've heard another variation of that is how do you rest when you have toddlers because it's still tough when they're still running around. There's,

there's so many ways of like how, basically people don't, we get this question a lot of how do you actually cultivate that when it still feels like the times you want to rest, feel busy, feel intense, feel stressful. What would you say, Jeremy? Yeah, this could be really tough because obviously a lot of parties happen on the weekend a lot of people plan things people have they're

moving you know and they want your help and like, oh my gosh, this can be so overwhelming for people who are just starting to try to carve out and protect the 24 hour period. So our family rests from Friday night to Saturday night, and we have a protected rest time.

But it's really important for you guys to know that, like, that, it takes a while for you and your

community and your friends and your family to get used to you saying no to commitments

and trying to plan them on a different day. A lot of people rest on Sunday because for that

reason,

and we did for about seven years, our Sabbath, our Shabbat was Saturday night to Sunday

night because we didn't, we felt like it was too big of a shock to almost the community we were in

to say no to things on Saturday. So it was a lot easier to say no to things on Sunday. And then over

time, when a lot of our friends and family get used to us having a protected 24 hours, then we

moved it to all day Saturday. But just some things that keep in mind, number one, be prepared to

take a hit. Anytime, if you're going to carve out 24 hours, no matter what day you choose, it's going to sound strange to people. They're going to not understand. They're going to feel, they're going to take some things personally. And so somebody's going to have to take these cultural hits when you make a really a new stand for a new thing. Be very generous. Don't be like a Pharisee. You say, well, you should be resting too. You know, like none of that stuff. No judgment zone. Don't judge other people for resting or not resting. The Bible says really clearly New Testament, don't do that. But if you're choosing for your own flourishing and to align with sort of this principle in creation to have a day of rest, then know you're going to take a hit. The second thing

is, when commitments pop up, really ask yourself the question, instead of saying, we say no to everything. We don't do that personally. We do say yes to some things. But we always ask the question, is there a way to do this in a restful way? So somebody's got a party on a Saturday. Okay. So it's a three-hour party. that sounds exhausting.

You know,

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