Ep 147: How to speak up for yourself: agreeable vs demanding women + finding our center

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Hilary Rushford

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🗓️ 8 February 2023

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

I’m embarrassed to admit this even happened. Yet a recent appointment made it crystal clear: I am a people pleaser in an unexpected way, with unintended consequences for people I care about (not to mention myself!)

Furthermore, I experienced in real time when it’s worth it to be uncomfortable for a moment, to save yourself hours of discomfort if you stay silent.

We could call this: The one where my hair was accidentally died red (again) on a day I just happened to have a call with our community here and therefore I had the beautiful accountability to walk back in and show up better for myself.

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Journal & discussion Q’s:

When do you not speak up and why?
When do you cause more discomfort for people close to you by doing so?
What is and is not rude, or demanding, or high maintenance? What’s the story you/culture tells you, and what’s the neutral truth?
What do you not think is that when a man does it but do when a woman does?

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0:00.0	the elegant excellence journal is coming back.
0:04.1	Friend, I need you to understand how excited I am,
0:09.4	physical products that are this complex.
0:13.2	Take so much lead time.
0:15.4	I had changes based on your feedback,
0:18.5	based on my fresh ideas that I wanted to make 18 months ago
0:23.2	to the elegant excellence journal.
0:25.1	We spent months and months and months working on it this summer
0:29.5	and we have, I think it is seven new changes debuting for 2023
0:34.8	that I have been bursting at the seams to share with you.
0:37.9	I have been using my samples for eight months and I am obsessed
0:41.6	and it has been so hard not to put them on Instagram stories
0:45.9	and give them to you guys.
0:47.4	So head over to elegantexcellentjournal.com today.
0:51.6	I will put that link in the episode description.
0:55.3	For the first time ever, something you have asked for four years
0:59.3	is a private community to gather with me, to ask questions,
1:05.2	to support one another, go deeper, make like-minded friends,
1:10.8	share how you're using the journal, get fresh ideas,
1:13.6	share your a-ha's, help one another, hear one another's a-ha's,
1:17.0	so you can also hear about how to join us inside the elegant excellence
1:21.2	community at elegantexcellentjournal.com.
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