You are listening to the Life Coach School Podcast with Brook Castillo episode number 145.

Welcome to the Life Coach School Podcast, where it's all about real clients, real problems, and real coaching.

And now your host, Master Coach Instructor, Brook Castillo.

Hello, hello, hello, my friends. How are you guys?

I am amazing. I'm so excited about this podcast, and I'm also very excited about the self-coaching scholars and how much you guys are excited about it, too.

So originally, when I opened it up, I had opened it up with two calls during the month. I've now added a third, and I'm going to add a fourth.

Basically, we'll have a call a week for everyone in that membership. I've also added the overeating workshop to, as a bonus. So that's super fun to the membership.

And also the stopover drinking membership will be added to that all for the same price. So if you haven't checked it out, go to LifeCatch School.com-forutsashjoin.

You have to be signed up by today. Oh my goodness, I was just looking at the schedule. Today is the last day for you to sign up to join us for the 22nd to join us for, it's actually the 21st, but I'm going to tell them to give you to the 22nd.

If you want to still join us, make sure you go sign up right now. I'm going to get in trouble.

Okay, so let's talk about when you've been let down. I have lots of examples of this from this week. And one of them is from a colleague of mine who sent me a text about hopes that she was about something.

One of them is about some tax implications with my own business that I would say let me down.

And I've been working with some clients on the same thing too. So I think it's a really good topic actually. And when I was preparing for it, I was thinking about all the implications that happen when we feel like we've been let down.

And the first thing I was thinking about is you can't ever be let down unless you have an expectation about how someone should behave or how something should happen.

So we have this expectation of how people should behave or we have an expectation of how people should treat us or what they should do. And when they don't do that, then we feel let down.

And so I'm going to start with the example of one of my colleagues and she's very successful woman, really good friend of mine.

We have lots of debates over text and we talk about a lot of really funny things and we also talk about really serious things. And so she sent me a text and basically said this. She said a very credible source told me that someone else said something about me.

So I was like, first of all, just because we tell the story and use the word credible source doesn't mean that it's not gossip. Right. It's all gossip.

So basically someone came to her and told her that someone else had said something about her. It's all gossip. So I just want to say that when that happens to me, my answer is usually it's totally true, whatever they said.

Even if I don't even know, like it's like I can find the truth in it and let's just go with that. And let's move on. Because a lot of times people come to us very well intended, right. They come to somebody like, hey, I just want to let you know this person said this about you.

Right. And so here's the first thing I want to say about that is, why did they feel like they could talk about me to you behind my back. Right. That's the first thing.

And so that was my feedback to my friend as I basically said, well, this person shouldn't be talking to you. Just call the source. Call the person directly and find out what's really going on. Get the full story.

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