4.9 • 802 Ratings
🗓️ 21 November 2019
⏱️ 26 minutes
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Are you struggling with gratitude this holiday season? If so, this episode is exactly what you might need to hear. In today’s episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit, I spoke with Shala Nicely about struggling with gratitude. Together, we address why some people might be struggling with gratitude or being grateful, especially if they are also struggling with mental health.
In this episode, Shala Nicely addresses the personal struggles she has had in the past with gratitude and some incredible tools to manage this.
Shala so beautifully articulates three common reasons why people struggle with gratitude. The first two struggles fall under the category, that Shala calls, gratitude by comparison. This often occurs when you are supposed to be doing “better” than someone else, but you do not feel very grateful. Shala explains that gratitude by comparison can fall into two separate categories: relief-induced gratitude and guilt-induced gratitude.
The third common struggle is forced gratitude. An example of this might be, “I should be grateful and I’m not. What’s wrong with me?” or, “You have everything going for you. Why can’t you just be thankful for what you have instead of focusing on the negative?”
I love that Shala addresses how forced gratitude quickly becomes what we know clinically as toxic positivity.
Some great tips if you are struggling with gratitude might be:
• Practicing wonder, curiosity or beginners mind
• Non-Judgment
• Give yourself permission to not practice gratitude over the holidays
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0:00.0 | This is Your Anxiety Toolkit episode number 128. |
0:10.7 | Welcome to Your Anxiety Toolkit. I'm your host, Kimberly Quinlan. This podcast is fueled by three |
0:17.7 | main goals. The first goal is to provide you with some extra tools |
0:21.8 | to help you manage your anxiety. |
0:24.2 | Second goal, to inspire you. |
0:26.7 | Anxiety doesn't get to decide how you live your life. |
0:30.1 | And number three, and I leave the best for last, |
0:33.0 | is to provide you with one big, fat virtual hug |
0:37.4 | because experiencing anxiety ain't easy. |
0:39.9 | If that sounds good to you, let's go. |
0:46.8 | Can I just begin by telling you how grateful I am for you all? |
0:52.8 | It is almost one week until we have Thanksgiving here in the United |
0:58.2 | States of America. And this is a tradition I'm still wrapping my head around. It's not something |
1:04.6 | that I grew up with when I lived in Australia for the first, what, 19, 20 years of my life. And here I am now becoming, |
1:15.9 | I think, I think I'm getting better at really, you know, being used to this whole tradition |
1:22.0 | of taking time each year to be grateful. But what really came up for me this holiday season is just this feeling of, |
1:32.7 | what if, or this thought I should say too, what if I don't really feel that grateful? What if I'm |
1:38.4 | struggling with gratitude? What if it doesn't feel quite right to me right now and so i thought i would invite my amazing |
1:47.0 | dear friend charla nicely to discuss this because this is a conversation her and i had and i |
1:53.8 | personally think it is a genius topic charla is coming on today to speak with us about the struggles you might be having |
2:03.3 | with gratitude and together we troubleshoot those problems and come to hopefully give you |
2:09.5 | some tools to manage the holiday season if you're struggling to access that emotion or |
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