You were listening to How to Get Over Your Ex, episode number 126, Hating Your Ex.

Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time. I'm your

host, breakup coach Dorothy. Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy.

All right, my brave hearts, I will not lie. I was the one to genuinely believe that hating my ex would be easier than loving him. Hating him

meant that what he did was not okay and then maybe at some point the wrong he did would be made

right. Is anyone else with me? Anyone else? Can anyone else raise their hand and agree with that?

Now a year and a half went by, right?

And I still felt like ass.

And no one, listen, no one arrived at my door saying, I'm so sorry he did that to you.

Let me make sure he pays for what he's done.

And I should split that into two because there are people that said, sorry he did that to you,

but no one was like, let me make sure he pays for what he's done, right?

And honestly, that wouldn't have made it any better.

There was nothing that anyone else could have done to make it better. And there was even nothing that he could have done. Even if he came back saying

sorry and I'm going to do everything differently and I still want to be with you, that doesn't

change what happened. And I know who I was at that time and I would have for sure made

problems out of it and we wouldn't have

progressed and would have been in the same spot just years later. So the interesting part is that

while I was spending my time hating someone, I was the one that was experiencing the hate,

the anger, the resentment, and the negative emotion, not him.

And I think the main problem with this whole concept is that we think that if I don't hate

my ex, I have to love him.

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