My entitled sister demands that I give her a $10,000 loan so that she can have her dream wedding exactly as she wants it. But now that I've told her no and that I don't have that kind of money laying around, she's turned the entire family against me, as she has them somehow convinced that I'm the selfish one and not her. And at this point, I honestly don't know what to do. Here's what happened. This story also came from the Am I the Jerk subreddit. Check the links in the description if you would like to submit your own story.

Okay, so here. point, I honestly don't know what to do. Here's what happened. This story also came from the Am I the Jerk subreddit. Check the links in the description if you would like to submit your own story.

Okay, so here's the situation. I'm a 28-year-old male and I have a 26-year-old sister who is getting

married in a few months. We've always had a bit of a rocky relationship. Growing up, she was the

golden child, always getting what she wanted, and I often felt like my needs and accomplishments were overlooked in comparison.

This became even more apparent when we both started getting older, and I noticed that whenever she had a problem or wanted something, it was always expected that I'd be there to support her, even when it was inconvenient for me.

Well, now she's planning this huge wedding, like really extravagant. She's talking about

a destination wedding, fancy venues, and a designer dress, the whole works. She's already racked up a

huge bill, and a couple of weeks ago, she came to me asking for a loan of $10,000 just to help cover

some of the cost. She mentioned how my other sibling, who, by the way, has a lot more money than I do,

had already agreed to contribute, and it's just expected that I'll do the same. Now, here's the thing,

I don't have that kind of money lying around, and I've been working hard to pay off student loans

and save for my own future. I didn't feel comfortable dipping into my savings for something that I

feel is frankly a bit excessive. I politely told her that I couldn't afford it. But she became really upset and said that family helps each other out and that I should be there for her, especially since she helped me when I was in a tough spot a couple of years ago. And for reference, I had a health issue that set me back financially. Now, I tried to explain that while I appreciated her past help,

I am not in a position to help with her wedding, and I don't think it's reasonable to expect me to give

such a large sum. She then got really angry and started telling the rest of the family that I was

being selfish and unsupportive. And now, most of my relatives are siding with her, saying I should

just make it work for the family. I'm honestly feeling really conflicted. I know it's her big day, but I don't think I should have to sacrifice my financial stability for it. So truly, am I the jerk for refusing to help pay for the wedding? Because right now, I don't know what to do. Before we go any further, the original poster has a lot of updates they want to share. Here's what they had to say. First of all, I want to thank everyone for your feedback on my initial post. I've been reading through all the comments, and I'm trying to take in the advice and perspectives. I honestly didn't expect the response to be so overwhelming, but it's been really helpful in sorting through my own feelings about this situation. I wanted to share an update since things have progressed since I posted. After I turned down my sister's request for the $10,000 loan, things did not go well. She was

furious, and as I mentioned before, she told the rest of the family that I was being selfish and

unsupportive. At first, it was mostly just her and a couple of other relatives siding with her,

but the situation quickly escalated. My

mom in particular has been really pressuring me to just help out because family sticks together

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