My entitled in-laws are furious with me, complaining that they don't want to dress up for my Renaissance-themed wedding,

claiming that I'm making everybody look like idiots all because I'm enforcing a dress code.

And at this point, I'm not sure if I'm the jerk for asking people to dress a certain way at my wedding because based on their reaction I'm starting to seriously doubt myself.

Here's what happened.

I'm a 29 year old female and I'm getting married to my 30 year old partner and we've planned a fantasy and renaissance theme wedding.

We are massive fandom nerds. We read books, we play video games, we love movies and comics, and we actually met at a

Renaissance fair and wanted that to be a part of our wedding. We discussed it with our

close friends and everyone thought it was a great idea. So we sent out the

invitations, plus an attach letter that explained why we wanted to have a themed

wedding and examples of the type of things that we wanted people to wear. We included photos,

descriptions, budget categories that went from how to do it yourself,

all the way to just straight out buying something online.

We also asked people to reach out if they had any worry so that we could work something out.

Well, I've received a few messages from my closer friends,

saying that they've heard other people, including some of mine

and my partner's family members, calling me a bridezilla,

saying that we are being unreasonable, that this is

ridiculous and that they don't want to go if I'm going to get all up in arms over

clothing. My soon-to-be mother-in-law and sister-in-law are especially angry.

I reached out to them after their names were mentioned and they said I am ruining what is

supposed to be a happy day by demanding people dress up like idiots.

They said everyone should be allowed to dress in

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