Ending The War With Your Wants (Joe Hudson and Alexa Kistler)

The Art of Accomplishment

Brett Kistler

Management, Mental Health, Personal Development, Education, Self-improvement, Business, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 269 Ratings

🗓️ 16 January 2026

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

Wanting is one of our most powerful levers for change. Not what you want, but your relationship to wanting itself. In this episode, Joe sits down with AOA facilitator Alexa Kistler to unpack why so many people are at war with their desires and how ending that war offers a path out of suffering. They discuss: - Wanting, craving, and aversion - Childhood patterns that take us away from wanting - Identity shifts when you allow yourself to want - How not owning desire makes you more manipulable, not less - Why chasing outcomes creates suffering, even when you succeed

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0:00.0	I'm not allowed to want this thing, but I want it. There's a lot of war that comes with that.
0:05.6	When you own your want, you have to own the fact that it's okay for you to have it. And most people,
0:11.4	a lot of what they want, they're actually not okay to have. You were in the, I don't want money.
0:16.4	I don't want money to rule my life. But behind all of that, there's a want. There's nothing that you do
0:22.8	that isn't based in a want. Wanting is a liveliness. Wanting is a liveliness, right? How much would
0:28.1	those people's lives change if they could just be inside their wanting? Everything would change.
0:32.9	To really be able to understand and feel and speak your wants cleanly can absolutely change lives.
0:52.6	I'm so excited you're willing to talk about this today, about wants.
0:57.5	Yeah.
0:58.3	This is a topic that's just really up for me right now. I'm just really excited about it.
1:03.0	As in my, yeah, I've been thinking a lot about it for the last couple weeks.
1:06.8	Me too. I don't know what's making it be in the air or whatever it is, but I've been noticing
1:13.7	across a bunch of my clients, it's just this huge unlock for so much.
1:21.0	Yeah.
1:21.8	So I really wanted to get this topic in front of people as soon as possible.
1:26.7	Yeah. It's a great topic.
1:28.3	I think it, like, its capacity to change your life is tremendous.
1:31.9	To really be able to understand and feel and speak your wants cleanly can absolutely
1:37.3	change lives.
1:39.1	It's changed mind has changed a lot of people's.
1:42.0	Absolutely.
1:42.7	Me too.
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