Encore: S04 Ep. 03 - Richard’s Wife’s Death
Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch
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4.8 • 2.4K Ratings
🗓️ 19 August 2025
⏱️ 75 minutes
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Summary
This week, we’re in session with Richard, who has been trying to avoid feeling the pain of losing his wife of 40 years. We teach him how to sit with his sadness, even as he moves forward into a new relationship.
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| 0:00.0 | This is an IHeart podcast. |
| 0:07.9 | I'm Lori Gottlieb. I'm the author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and I write the |
| 0:12.7 | Dear Therapist Advice column for the Atlantic. And I'm Guy Wynch. I'm the author of Emotional First |
| 0:18.3 | Aid, and I write the Dear Guy advice column for TED. And this is |
| 0:22.4 | dear therapists. Each week, we invite you into a real session where we help people confront |
| 0:27.4 | the problems in their lives and then give them actionable advice and have them report back to let us know what |
| 0:32.9 | happened when they did what we suggested. So sit back and welcome to today's session. |
| 0:39.0 | This week, a man whose wife of 40 years has passed away wonders how to grieve while also moving |
| 0:44.8 | forward in a new relationship. |
| 0:47.1 | She would say in an accusatory way, you simply haven't had enough time. |
| 0:53.2 | You haven't stopped grieving. but this was an excuse to put |
| 0:57.1 | some distance between us. First, a quick note, Dear Therapists is for informational purposes only. It does not |
| 1:03.5 | constitute medical or psychological advice and is not a substitute for professional health care advice, |
| 1:08.3 | diagnosis or treatment. By submitting a letter, you are agreeing |
| 1:11.2 | to let IHeartMedia use it in part or in full, and we may edit it for length and clarity. |
| 1:15.9 | In the sessions you'll hear, all names have been changed for the privacy of our guests. |
| 1:22.9 | Hi, Lori. Hi, Guy. So what are we going to be talking about today? Today we're going to be talking about |
| 1:29.4 | grief. And here's the letter. Dear therapists, I lost my wife almost three years ago. We would have |
| 1:37.2 | been married 40 years on our next anniversary. For the last one and a half years, I've been |
| 1:42.1 | involved with a wonderful woman whom I'm grown to love, but who lives 1,200 miles away. |
| 1:48.0 | Although we talk on the phone twice daily, we get to spend time with one another just one week in every five. |
| 1:54.6 | I am going stir crazy, living by myself for the first time in my life. |
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