This is an IHeart podcast.

I'm Lori Gottlieb.

I'm the author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and I write the Dear Therapist

Advice column for The Atlantic.

And I'm Guy Winch.

I'm the author of Emotional First Aid, and I write the dear guy advice column for TED.

And this is Dear Therapists. Each TED, and this is dear therapists.

Each week, we invite you into a real session where we help people confront their biggest problems

and then give them actionable advice and hear about the changes they've made in their lives.

So sit back and welcome to today's session.

This week, we're in session with Jordan, who wants to understand how seeing his parents'

dysfunctional relationship as a child might have contributed to his own marriage ending after

only two years.

There were red flags that I ignored.

Here's this beautiful woman that I get along with extremely well, and we just seem perfect

for each other, and we moved in with each other, and it was within a couple months, I started

to realize, wait a second.

This just doesn't seem normal.

First a quick note, dear therapist is for informational purposes only.

It does not constitute medical or psychological advice and is not a substitute for professional

health care advice diagnosis or treatment.

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