Encore: How To Stand Up for Your Kid When Society Won't
How To! with Mike Pesca
Peach Fish Projects
4.3 • 2K Ratings
🗓️ 7 June 2022
⏱️ 29 minutes
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Summary
Karin always thought of herself as the mom of two boys—that is, until last year when her oldest child told her they were nonbinary, meaning they don't identify as either male or female. Karin loves her kid deeply, but she's struggling to get used to their new name and pronouns, especially because her town—and husband—aren't very accepting. On this episode of How To!, we bring in Lisa DelCol, a fellow mom of a nonbinary child and former president of PFLAG Oklahoma City, to help Karin come to terms with her child's gender identity. Parents are going to make mistakes along the way, Lisa says, but it's important to share what you learn with others. The more you advocate for them, the more accepting the world becomes.
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| 0:30.2 | It's June, which means it's Pride Month in honor of the 1969 Stonewall uprising. There's |
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| 0:41.5 | Recently, a series of states passed anti-gay, anti-trans legislation, and depending on where |
| 0:46.9 | you live, it can be a scary time to be gay or to love someone who is. |
| 0:52.5 | And even really supportive parents can struggle with the news of a |
| 0:56.2 | child changing their gender identity. That reaction can stem from fear of the unknown, fear of your |
| 1:03.0 | kid not leading the life you envision for them, fear of how other people might treat them. |
| 1:09.6 | Here at how to, the best way we know to combat fear is through |
| 1:13.9 | genuine curiosity and open conversation. So we wanted to bring back an episode from a couple |
| 1:19.4 | years ago called How to Stand Up for Your Kid when society won't. Our expert Lisa Del Cole has |
| 1:26.2 | some great advice for working through complicated feelings, |
| 1:30.6 | loving your kids for who they are, and advocating on their behalf. It's an extremely timely episode, |
| 1:37.4 | and I think you'll get a lot out of it. I'm going to pass the mic now to our previous host, |
| 1:41.7 | Charles Duhigg, but I'll be back next week with a brand new episode. |
| 1:46.0 | What specifically do you think it is that you're struggling with? |
| 1:51.0 | I'm struggling with the name change. You know, when you're pregnant, you spend nine months, like, coming up with names. |
| 1:59.0 | You know, I got an ultrasound. I knew I was having a boy |
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