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Talking about their lives careers successes and failures. I'm Jamil Zaki and my dilemma is how do I get my kids to stop being frenemies and start being just good old-fashioned

friends

And how old are they?

My older kid is four and my younger one is two and a half and the little one

I realize is the big one, but I think that she sort of thinks that maybe the best way to show her admiration is to

Sometimes just show that she can also be the boss and so she tries to irritate her big sister and she's extremely successful at it

So it sounds like you're describing my childhood my sister and I were not quite Irish twins

But we were close close enough in age for me to bother her by wanting to be just like her when I was younger

I wanted to find out what music she was listening to and what TV shows she liked and we were also close enough in age for us to be competitive

competing against each other for sports teams and

Otherwise and that is what makes it tough my hope for you is that your daughters have different

interests and passions and then support each other and them and our great friends who love to go to each other's games and concerts and

dance recitals because it's tough to be super close in age and have one or the other

Stealing a roster spot or first chair in band or the dance solo from the other if they end up being into the same things

You might be in for a long wait before they're really close because it wasn't until after college that my sister and I realized that having a lot in common

Met we would actually like each other if we hung out before that we were just too competitive with one another

But maybe just maybe if you smother both of your girls with

Tons of great feedback and make them confident in whatever they do

It'll be easier for them not to feel competitive. They'll just thrive on their own

Or maybe just maybe one will be really good at stuff and the other will suck and then it'll be really easy because there'll be no way to argue

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