Elsey & The Calculating Abusive Narcissist | Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

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🗓️ 29 April 2024

⏱️ 82 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Elsey shares her story of marrying a calculating manipulative abuser. When Elsey met her abuser, she thought that since he came from a good family in the community, then he must be a good person. Sadly, Elsey was wrong. After the initial love bombing phase of their relationship, Elsey began to endure a myriad of manipulation and abuse tactics that were ever-changing. As the relationship continued, Elsey was constantly walking on eggshells, waiting for the other shoe to drop as the abuses got more severe over time. It's a story of submission, lies, rage, putdowns, identity erosion, physical abuse, sexual abuse, sexual coercion, triangulation, manipulation tactics, being right, shame, guilt, testing boundaries, love bombing, lies, mirroring, double standards, victim playing, and survival. ***CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse, sexual abuse, and sexual coercion.*** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Elsie, and Elsie was married to a calculating manipulative abuser.
0:10.9	It's a story of submission, lies, rage, putdowns, identity erosion, and survival.
0:36.6	Music identity erosion and survival. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today, we have Elsie. How are you?
0:48.0	I'm good. Thank you. How are you? Well, I am doing well. Thank you for asking. and thank you for being here. And if you want to be a
0:58.0	guest like Elsie is today, please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com. Top of the page,
1:03.7	there's the button that says guest form. When you click on that button, it takes you to our guest
1:07.0	form page. There you can read all of our instructions and either send us an email
1:11.0	at Narcissist Apocalypse at gmail.com or fill out our guest form and press the submit button
1:16.0	and please do send it in the format that we ask for. In today's episode, we have a content warning
1:21.7	as we do graphically discuss extreme physical abuse. Sexual coercion in abuse is also mentioned on this episode, and we have a lot
1:29.2	more swearing in this episode as well as we recreate conversation in this episode. So that is our
1:35.2	content warning for today. And today we're going to hear Elsie's story. And Elsie's story
1:40.4	specifically later, we do have a lot of physical abuse that is endured by elsie but on the way
1:47.5	there there just so much calculation that went into the abuse and it's just a myriad of different
1:53.5	techniques that were used so many people out there listening today you will be able to connect
1:59.9	because elsie had so many things happen
2:04.0	that there's something in there that you'll be able to connect with and get validated from. So
2:08.4	a big thank you to Elsie for being here today and now I'm going to get out of my way and
2:13.6	your way. Elsie, the floor, is now yours. Hi. Okay. My story is very old. I was married, well, I met my
2:29.3	abuser in 1982, and I married him and I divorced him in 1993. So I had had this whole, it's over,
2:40.4	it's gone. It's, it's irrelevant anymore. We didn't have cell phones. It's like when you listen
2:47.1	to other stories of abuse, I was like, my story doesn't belong anymore. And, you know,
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