Asking better questions is one of the hardest things ever because you have to now start making really hard choices.

You have to question some cherished beliefs.

Absolutely.

When you spend time as 21-year-old Mark meditating and you separate from the person and the thoughts and all that chaos.

And you say to yourself, who am I?

Who am I really?

Looking at these thoughts.

Who am I really?

I remember thinking this is the life that people are trying to make me have, and I don't want this. Your mind gets to determine your reality. If you change your thoughts structures, it changes your beliefs, change your perceptions, which change your reality. And it changes your ability to achieve. The first Navy sale I ever met, he said, I thought about quitting every minute, every day. Interesting. And I said to him,

so how did you not? You're constantly cold, you're constantly tired, you're constantly in pain.

Everybody's frame of reference and language is different. I thought about how do I get this

accomplished? Any negative thinking weakens your body. You have to embrace this suck. I got so comfortable

in darkness that I lost my fear of it. I didn't build

that overnight. It just started with. Let's do this. Welcome to the Mark Devine show. I am your host.

Mark Devine. Imagine that. So if you're a leader ready to grow and push your limits and lead with

purpose and passion, then guess what? You come to the right place. This show is dedicated to helping you lead with courage, resilience, and deeper awareness.

I am super stoked to have Elliott, Connie, here with me today, internationally recognized

as the Friend of Solutions.

That's cool.

Elias's based in Keller, Texas, and has guided thousands of individuals, couples, and families

to meaningful change through what he calls a solution-focused approach.

He's a co-founder and director of the Solution Focus University, a global online platform

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