Eli Finkel & Paul Eastwick on Real Love vs. Movie Love | EP 629

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John R. Miles

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🗓️ 26 June 2025

⏱️ 55 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles is joined by renowned psychologists Dr. Eli Finkel and Dr. Paul Eastwick to explore how movies distort our understanding of love—and what decades of relationship science actually reveal. Together, they break down the myths of “destiny” vs. “growth” beliefs in romance, why initial attraction doesn’t always predict long-term success, and how cultural scripts shape our expectations for passion and commitment.

They also discuss their groundbreaking research on mate preferences, relationship dynamics, and what modern love really demands from us. Whether you're single, dating, or decades into a relationship, this conversation challenges everything you thought you knew about love—and leaves you with practical, evidence-based insights to build a deeper connection.

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0:00.0	Coming up next on Passionstruck.
0:02.2	It's one thing to really find somebody initially appealing and find yourself falling for them
0:07.7	and you're learning all these things about them.
0:10.2	But what ultimately happens is regardless of what happens to the initial passion, you
0:16.0	create eventually patterns of interacting, ways of making it through your daily life, a little culture
0:24.5	that's all your own, that sometimes we call these microcultures. Movies are often very good at
0:30.2	depicting that because sometimes those are really the specifics that give each relationship
0:34.7	a life of its own. Welcome to Passionstruck.
0:37.8	Hi, I'm your host, John R. Miles, and on the show, we decipher the secrets, tips, and
0:42.9	guidance of the world's most inspiring people and turned their wisdom into practical advice
0:48.6	for you and those around you.
0:50.6	Our mission is to help you unlock the power of intentionality so that you can become the
0:56.5	best version of yourself. If you're new to the show, I offer advice and answer listener
1:01.5	questions on Fridays. We have long-form interviews the rest of the week with guests ranging
1:06.8	from astronauts to authors, CEOs, creators, innovators, scientists, military leaders, visionaries, and athletes.
1:15.4	Now, let's go out there and become Passionstruck.
1:19.0	Welcome to episode 629 of Passionstruck. I'm your host, John Miles, and this is the show
1:24.9	where we ignite change from the inside out, so you can live
1:28.4	with deeper intention, greater meaning, and more authentic connection. All month long, we've been
1:33.4	diving into our series, The Connected Life, how we build meaningful relationships, lead with
1:38.5	emotional intelligence, and stay grounded in a world that constantly pulls us apart. Earlier this
1:44.0	week in episode 628, I sat down
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