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Vanessa, why do moms in the West feel like they're failing even when they're doing everything, quote, right?

I guess there's two things that come up for me when you ask that question.

So I would say the first thing is it's by design, right?

So the more we feel like we're failing, the harder we're going to try to hustle for our belonging, to convince ourselves that we're worthy,

to convince ourselves that we're lovable, that we're enough, right? And so we're going to try

harder and harder and we're going to keep trying harder and harder. Is the nuclear family model

actually hurting moms nowadays more than we might think? I believe it is 100%. I mean, first of all,

it's created. The nuclear family is not actually how

our species was meant to survive or raise children. It was invented in the 50s anyway as a way,

again, to isolate and control and get as many factory workers kind of in and out of the suburbs

in the cities as possible, right? We're meant to raise children in a group, in a collective.

Someone might not think that the world of sexuality and your sex life in general, but also

your sexual connection to your partner has as much of a role in your parenting style

and your psyche, I think, as you write about.

So can you kind of briefly talk to us about sexual disconnection from one's partner?

And what does this typically look like?

And more importantly, why does it matter to not let it go unchecked?

So I'm Vanessa Bennett.

I'm a licensed depth psychotherapist and the author of the new book, The

Motherhood Myth. And today I'm here to bust all the myths on motherhood, sex and relationships.

Hey guys. My guest today, Vanessa Bennett, is here to talk about her amazing new book, The Motherhood

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