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Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram Daily Podcast

Effectively Communicating (God's Love to Your Mate)

Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram Daily Podcast

Living on the Edge

Christianity, Religion & Spirituality

4.8 • 1.8K Ratings

🗓️ 25 February 2026

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

Tired of misunderstandings? Chip shares how to move past hurt feelings and start having genuine heart-to-heart conversations with your spouse today.

How to effectively communicate:

I. The command – Put on the proper attire -Colossians 3:12

  1. COMPASSION – Empathy to action vs. cynical -Matthew 9:36
  2. KINDNESS – Whatever is helpful, beneficial vs. critical -Jeremiah 9:23-24, John 4
  3. HUMILITY – Their needs first, posture of a servant -Philippians 2:5-11
  4. GENTLENESS – Strength under control, your emotions -Matthew 11:28-30
  5. PATIENCE – Endure with a good attitude -2 Peter 3:8-9

II. Why the “clothing” metaphor is crucial to biblical communication

  1. “Old clothes” must be taken off. -Colossians 3:8-9
  2. The new self requires “new clothes”. -Colossians 3:10-11

The Principle: Who we are determines how we “dress” (communicate from the heart)

III. The problem:

  • We have settled for techniques and self-help tools to change how we speak, and to modify our emotions and behaviors to improve compatibility; rather than focusing on the deep-rooted transformation of our hearts which empowers us to give the life-giving love of Christ to our mates.

IV. The solution is threefold:

1. Don’t buy the old lies*

  • I am what I have: Possessions
  • I am what I accomplish: Performance
  • I am what others think of me: Popularity

2. Dress appropriately for your mate

  1. A – AFFIRMATION
  2. W – WARMTH
  3. E – ENCOURAGEMENT

3. Have at least 2 “couples conferences” per week**

  1. What are you concerned about?
  2. What do you wish?
  3. What are you willing to do?

*Discover Your True Self book and Affirmation Cards by Chip Ingram and Theresa Ingram.

**Marriage that Works by Chip Ingram.

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0:00.0

This is the Chip Ingram Sermon podcast, brought to you by Living on the Edge.

0:06.8

In this podcast, you'll hear Chip's teaching unedited and from beginning to end.

0:12.8

Well, here's Chip with today's message titled, Effectively Communicating God's Love to Your Mate.

0:18.5

The greatest thing you can do for your marriage is draw closer and closer and closer and

0:26.4

closer to walk with God.

0:29.1

The only one that can ever satisfy the deepest needs of your heart in your life is Christ.

0:34.6

The only way that you or I or anyone will be able to treat our mates in a way that

0:41.1

will cultivate and develop them becoming who God wants them to become is when God gives that to us

0:47.7

by the Holy Spirit through the Lord Jesus, through His Word, and the community of God's people.

0:53.6

And so it's super counterintuitive.

0:56.2

We're all human.

0:57.1

We just so want that other person to come through for us.

1:01.1

And so what I want to do now is I'm going to talk about how to effectively communicate.

1:07.0

And when I talk about communication, not so much in the classical, the meeting of meanings.

1:12.1

That's, I think, a good definition of communication. It's the privilege of exchanging vulnerabilities

1:18.6

in the words of Norm Wright. It's the process of sharing yourself verbally and non-verbally in such a way

1:25.4

that the other person can both accept and understand what you're

1:29.4

saying. What I want to do is I want to talk about how do you communicate God's love to the person

1:39.8

he gave you, the gift that he gave you, this person, how do you communicate that? And you'll notice on the

1:46.9

top of your notes, it's more than just words, right? I mean, we know that, right? 70% is nonverbal,

1:54.1

38% is your tone of voice, 55% is facial expressions, gestures, posture, right?

2:02.3

I mean, I can say, I can look at my wife and say, yeah, I love you.

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