E97 - Sadia Khan: How To Avoid The Traps Of Modern Dating & Attract Aligned Love
Know Thyself
André Duqum
4.8 • 659 Ratings
🗓️ 21 May 2024
⏱️ 95 minutes
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Summary
Psychologist and Relationship Expert Sadia Khan reveals the #1 reasons that are keeping us single and how to navigate the mess of modern dating. She and André delve into the complexities of modern dating and explore key aspects that contribute to its challenges. From deciphering the intricacies of choosing the right partner to overcoming past traumas and establishing healthy relationship templates, this episode offers practical advice and insights to set yourself up for romantic success.
Sadia breaks down the often-debated topic of the "Boss Babe" mentality versus the biological clock, exploring tension between personal aspirations and pressures related to relationships and family planning. She also reveals the top green flags to look for in a partner, understanding someone's love language, and navigating polarity in relationship.
Finally, they shed light on the often-misunderstood aspects of gender dynamics in hetero-sexual couples, addressing the common misconceptions men may have about women's perspectives and needs, fostering empathy and understanding between genders.
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Timecodes:
0:00 Intro
1:33 Why Modern Dating is a Mess
7:10 How to Set Yourself Up For Success
9:57 The Trouble with Social Media, OnlyFans, and Narcissism
17:27 Choosing the Right Partner: How to Align Your Values & Behaviors
20:34 Overcoming Trauma & Making a New Template for Relationships
22:59 Why Some Long-term Relationships Fail
30:05 Boss Babe Mentality vs The Biological Clock
37:03 The Problem with Seeking a Partner
40:11 Polarity in Long Term Relationships
42:08 Green Flags in Relationship
44:08 Dealbreakers & Falling in Love with Someone's Potential
51:10 Love Languages & Giving/Receiving Balance
1:00:10 Self Sourcing Happiness after Success
1:02:42 Knowing Yourself & Facing Your Shadow
1:03:34 The #1 Hack to Personal Growth
1:06:56 How to Know When to Leave
1:10:30 The Truth About Cheating & Attraction
1:16:17 Men Don’t Understand This About Women
1:19:11 Do You Need A Leader in a Relationship?
1:20:25 Women Don't Understand This About Men
1:29:28 Release Desire and Gain Self Control
1:31:53 Conclusion
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Sadia Khan is a relationship coach who has dedicated her social presence to helping individuals and couples navigate the complexities of modern relationships. Her passion for helping people build fulfilling and lasting connections has guided her on this meaningful journey.
Sadia holds a BSc in Psychology, Master's in Education and Developmental psychology, Qualified Teachers Status, Diplomas in Psychotherapy, Advanced CBT, Psychoanalysis, and Inner Child Healing.
Her academic training and extensive practical experience allow her to offer well-rounded and evidence-based guidance.
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesadiapsychology/
Website: https://www.sadiapsychology.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sadiapsychology
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| 0:00.0 | The impact of a loving and consistent partner is a lifelong therapy session. |
| 0:05.0 | It really transforms you. |
| 0:07.0 | Here's a key problem. |
| 0:08.0 | Unfortunately, we're living in a paradox of mental health. |
| 0:11.0 | We have quick-fix solutions to what we think our fundamental needs are. |
| 0:15.0 | What pornography and social media has done has escalated what we desire in a partner. |
| 0:20.0 | If someone doesn't meet our needs initially, we replace them. As a result, we've got an epidemic of loneliness. So we're putting all the pressure on finding this one person to meet every need, that one person is in a sea of millions, and we don't even know if they're going to like us back. Do you think we're wired for monogamy? I would say there's two types of men in the world. I would say some men. So I don't know if I fully agree. Tell me, what do you think? I know we want the best, but why do we want the best in terms of aesthetics? Why not we want the best in terms of treatment? Shouldn't your full potential be somebody who loves you and worships you and wants to be with you. The joy you get from |
| 0:55.4 | choosing a woman who's truly attracted to you, who truly wants to be with you, is a irreplaceable |
| 1:01.3 | feeling. Hey everyone, welcome back to know they self. I'm excited to be sitting down today with a psychologist and relationship coach who has devoted |
| 1:14.6 | her social online presence to supporting individuals and couples in regards to modern relationships, |
| 1:22.6 | happiness, healing, so much that I'm excited to dive into today. |
| 1:25.6 | Sadia Khan, thanks for being here. |
| 1:26.6 | Thank you so much for having me. Yeah, the pleasure is mine. excited to dive into today. Sadia Khan, thanks for being here. Thank you so much for |
| 1:27.5 | having me. Yeah, the pleasure is mine. Let's dive right in. We live in a very interesting time. |
| 1:33.8 | We have this fundamental need for human connection and intimacy. How do you see through the lens |
| 1:38.8 | of mental health juxtaposing really our need, our intrinsic need that we all have for connection and intimacy |
| 1:46.4 | versus modern society's infinite access to fickle and dopaminergic substitutions for intimacy. |
| 1:54.0 | Unfortunately, we're living in a paradox of mental health. We have quick-fix solutions to what we think our fundamental |
| 2:01.9 | needs are. |
| 2:02.7 | So we've been told, we know what we need connection. |
| 2:06.0 | But instead of connection, we've kind of created a society which breaks down connection |
| 2:11.3 | and artificially inseminates connection in all ways, shapes and forms, whether that's |
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