E523 Going Deeper with Dr. Maya Shankar - Keeping New Year's Resolutions With Science
The Viall Files
Nick Viall
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🗓️ 5 January 2023
⏱️ 93 minutes
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Summary
Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files, Going Deeper Edition! Today we are joined by cognitive scientist and creator of A Slight Change In Plans, Dr. Maya Shankar. Before getting into the interview, we first get a quick update on GMA's TJ and Amy's relationship status, the recent info released about the Idaho murders, Andy Cohen and Anderson Cooper getting banned from drinking on New Year's Eve, and speculate on what they hope to learn from Anderson Cooper's upcoming interview with Prince Harry. We then dig deep with Dr. Maya Shankar, talking about the best ways to set and hold yourself to New Year's Resolutions. We talk about framing goals to be motivating and if it's better to start something or quit something.. We also discuss the "empathy gap" between your present self and future self, and integrating slack into your goals. Dr. Shankar explains what she learned from having parents in a successful arranged marriage, the science of quitting, and why it's important to tolerate boredom when structuring goals. We also talk about using novel experiences to break patterns in a relationship, and how "temptation funneling" can help you accomplish your goals. We then welcome our Texting Office Hours caller who recently matched with someone on Hinge who is extremely allergic to dogs. Our caller, having a dog herself, wonders if this is a dealbreaker or if she should try to give this guy a chance.
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| 0:00.0 | You can listen to the Vowl files ad free on Amazon music. |
| 0:16.0 | What's going on everybody welcome back to another episode of the Vowl files |
| 0:21.3 | going deeper edition. Boy do we have a great episode for you today Nick your host joined by Ali in |
| 0:31.0 | studio Amanda is a broad or home. This is like in New York not here. |
| 0:37.7 | Rounded by some beautiful Native American art because my grandmother loves Native American art. |
| 0:42.0 | So I would consider myself a little Santa Fe in New York. All right. All right. We have a great |
| 0:48.4 | episode for you today. Dr. Maya Shankar is with us today the behavioral scientist who's been on |
| 0:55.9 | our show before. She's also worked for the Obama White House for Google. She's a lot of interesting |
| 1:01.5 | thing within regards to behavior and habits and with it being the new year and people constantly |
| 1:07.2 | talking about New Year's resolutions and hopefully starting new habits. We brought in the expert |
| 1:12.8 | to talk talk about how to actually maybe accomplish some of these goals and we get into a bunch of |
| 1:19.9 | other cool stuff as it relates to healthy behaviors and habits and relationships and keeping the |
| 1:25.2 | spark alive and it's always great. Identity identity. It was great. You're definitely it's well you |
| 1:31.6 | have already downloaded it so here we are. Thank you. So thank you so keep listening. Is there anything |
| 1:37.5 | before we get to Dr. Maya? Is there anything we've missed that there's a lot there seems to be a lot |
| 1:43.3 | going on like the holidays and traveling. I want to touch on TJ and Amy because I heard that they |
| 1:48.8 | spent Christmas together like they're just like not being subtle in the slightest. Remember we talk |
| 1:53.5 | to you. Do you think they should be subtle? I mean if they're together. I mean pop I say pop off too |
| 1:59.1 | much but like is your life. I say I might the picture I took with TJ and Amy I feel like is |
| 2:08.0 | like it's up to its value. Yeah. Yeah. It's valuable. Oh yeah. I basically they're third wheel. |
| 2:13.4 | I'm going to drop an NFT with me TJ and Amy. I also I think you can argue like if the whole point |
| 2:20.0 | of two hosts is to have chemistry they understood the assignment almost too much and I think it would |
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