E41 - Stefanos Sifandos: How to find THE ONE & Have the Best Sex EVER
Know Thyself
André Duqum
4.8 • 658 Ratings
🗓️ 11 April 2023
⏱️ 98 minutes
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Summary
Relationship coach Stefanos Sifandos explains how to uplevel your relationships and create epic love. He dives deep into the damage that porn does to us, our societal distortions around love, and playing 'the dating game'. He explains his own journey of overcoming childhood trauma and a sex addiction, and why he believes that deliberate celibacy healed his relationship to the feminine.
He also shares his advice for how to find 'the one' and build a loving partnership, giving his tools for how to fight, defining agreements, and making love last past the honeymoon phase.
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Timecodes:
0:00 Intro
2:09 Creating Safe Spaces to Feel
8:26 Finding “The One”
11:59 Relationships as a Mirror
20:08 Stefanos Journey to Love
25:45 'Toxic' Masculinity
34:20 Porn’s Damage
44:28 Learn How to Fight
56:54 Have Better Sex
1:02:43 Attraction to Inner Beauty
1:07:04 Defining Agreements in Relationship
1:10:17 Choosing Celibacy
1:23:26 Men’s & Women’s Groups
1:33:20 Conclusion
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Stefanos Sifandos:
With over 15 years of experience in the personal development space, Stefanos is a trained educator, Behavioural Scientist and relationships expert with an extensive background in Psychology, Philosophy and Ecology. He is passionate about and committed to leading people to closer to their highest potential and to each other. Stefanos’ philosophy merges the best of Eastern and Western methodologies to promote spiritual balance and empower people in life and love.
From trauma release to navigating the murky waters of modern masculinity, to helping women understand the men in their lives, he helps people escape negative patterns and cultivate a positive sense of self. Stefanos has worked with thousands of men and women from all walks of life; special forces soldiers, Olympic gold medalists, elite world champion fighters, and everyday people have relied on him to restructure and reframe their relationships with themselves, their past, their trauma, their potential and their loved ones.
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stefanossifandos/
Website: https://stefanossifandos.com
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| 0:00.0 | What do most people do? |
| 0:01.0 | Gets too difficult. |
| 0:02.0 | Wasn't like this at the beginning? |
| 0:03.0 | Sex was great before. Now we're having it once every three months. Fuck this, I'm going to another relationship. We leave too soon. And for me, this is where the real work begins. I personally have been to some very, very dark places within my own psyche, within my own soul. It was a love compulsion, sex compulsion, sex addiction. I was running for myself completely. tried to say so that getting emotional. I don't think I would have been able to have my daughter |
| 0:24.4 | if I hadn't done that deeper work. The more you demonstrate discipline from seeking excessive pleasure, |
| 0:31.8 | the more attractive you are. And that builds trust ultimately. I often say the greater the pain |
| 0:36.7 | that we're harboring, |
| 0:41.8 | whether we know it or not, the greater the pleasure we require to mitigate that pain. And pornography, food, adrenaline, making a ton of money, being successful, fame is very distracted |
| 0:47.4 | from the pain that we don't want to feel. Here's the paradox. Feel the pain and you'll move |
| 0:51.1 | through it, you'll close the loop and you'll be a different person. |
| 0:59.7 | Music the pain and you'll move through it, you'll close the loop, and you'll be a different person. Hello, beautiful humans. Welcome back to the Know They Self podcast for every single week. |
| 1:03.9 | We get the honor and the privilege to sit down with a beautiful mind and open heart and somebody |
| 1:08.3 | who can help us know ourselves, me included. I enjoy this journey |
| 1:12.1 | for myself first and foremost so much. If you come to this podcast, you want to become the most |
| 1:16.8 | healthy, liberated, authentically expressed version of yourself. And my job is to introduce you |
| 1:22.1 | to tools, individuals, conversations, people that can help you do just that. My guest today is an incredible relationship |
| 1:30.5 | coach. His mission is to help individuals reach the fullness of their potentiality and discover what |
| 1:38.8 | it means to authentically relate and have a deep understanding of conscious dynamics within |
| 1:43.1 | partnership, but also in relation |
| 1:45.2 | to all life. And just getting to meet him as he came over about 30 minutes ago, I can feel |
| 1:52.0 | how people would feel safe in his presence because he feels like a very integrated individual. |
| 1:57.6 | And that's something that you can pick up on if you're sensitive to be attuned to that. |
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