E250: What Do Men Really Think About…? Part 4 (Heated Rivalry, mental load + areolas)

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 2.6K Ratings

🗓️ 5 March 2026

⏱️ 61 minutes

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Ever wish you could get a straight answer about what’s actually going on in his head? 🧠 We’re back with Part 4 of our “What Do Men Really Think About…?” series — and this time we’re diving into everything from Heated Rivalry and seeing gay sex on screen… to mental load, breadwinning, and why it takes them so long to poop. 💛 In this episode, you’ll hear: How men feel about watching gay sex on screen (including the Heated Rivalry phenomenon). Whether they actually believe mental load is real. What they think about baggy sweats and messy hair at home. How they feel when their partner earns more money than they do. The truth about submissiveness — and whether they want women to take more control. If they care about going down on you if you haven’t showered. And what they really notice about areolas. Xander’s not holding back… and some answers may surprise you! 🔗 Links & Resources: 🎧 What Do Men REALLY Think About…? Part 1 ➡️ https://vmtherapy.com/episode56 🎧 What Do Men REALLY Think About…? Part 2 ➡️ https://vmtherapy.com/episode69 🎧 What Do Men REALLY Think About…? Part 3 ➡️https://vmtherapy.com/episode213 🎧 Stay connected 📸 Follow us on Instagram ➡️ **https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander** 💌 Get our weekly email — with behind-the-scenes stories, expert tips, and so many sex puns. Sign up here 👉🏻 vmtherapy.com/subscribe 🎧 Never miss an episode! Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you listen to pods! ========================== THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS ========================== 👏Thanks Cozy Earth. Use code PILLOW to get up to 20% off. If you get a Post-Purchase Survey, be sure to mention you heard about Cozy Earth right here!➡︎https://cozyearth.com 👏Thanks Cure. Staying hydrated isn't just about water - you also need electrolytes. That's why we love Cure. It's clean and tastes great! Real ingredients. Real hydration. You can grab Cure on Amazon or find a store near you. ➡︎https://curehydration.com/PILLOW 👏Thanks Blissy. Because you’re a listener, Blissy is offering 60-nights risk-free PLUS use code PILLOWPOD to get an additional 30% off. Your skin and hair will thank you!➡︎https://blissy.com/PILLOWPOD 👏Thanks Quince. Refresh your wardrobe with Quince. Free Shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ➡︎https://quince.com/pillow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	What do men think about women being submissive in the bedroom?
0:04.1	Do men want women to take more control?
0:07.4	What do men think about the couch potato outfit slash vibe?
0:12.2	Do they hate the baggy sweats and messy hair?
0:15.3	Why do men take so long to poop?
0:18.4	How do men feel about their partner being the breadwinner?
0:23.8	That's a big one.
0:25.2	How do guys feel about heated rivalry and seeing gay sex on the screen?
0:30.8	So we just watched this a couple weeks ago.
0:32.9	Just answer for yourself first.
0:40.8	Hello, Alex. just answer for yourself first. Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks podcast.
0:44.4	We're your host, Vanessa.
0:45.8	And Zander Marin.
0:47.0	I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.
0:50.0	And I'm just a regular dude.
0:51.3	We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques
0:55.8	for improving yours.
0:57.5	Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical
1:02.4	relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom
1:08.1	doors and so much more.
1:10.3	It's the sex education you wish you'd had.
1:14.5	We are back with part four of one of, I must say, our most popular series we have ever done on the
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