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Pillow Talks

E218 Got the Ick? Why It Happens in Relationships + What to Do About It pt. 2

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.82.2K Ratings

🗓️ 24 July 2025

⏱️ 61 minutes

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Summary

You thought last week’s icks were bad? Buckle up, friend. Because in Part 2, we’re getting into the next-level icks — the ones that make you question everything. Like… oral sex immediately after intercourse. Or the dreaded dick flop. Or your partner’s casual approach to burping, farting, and forgetting what deodorant is. These icks go way beyond open-mouth chewing. We’re talking postpartum rage, peeing with the door open (or worse… the sound), and the surprisingly common hygiene habits that leave you wondering if love really can survive it all. 💛 Here’s what we’re serving up for you: The hygiene ick that made one woman reconsider everything Why flopping a penis around is not a valid form of initiation (seriously, stop) Oral after sex: hot or gross? Postpartum icks that no one warns you about Peeing, poor aim, and other bathroom-related turn-offs The financial icks that hit harder than expected 🎧 Basically, if you’ve ever looked at your partner and thought “ew”… this one’s for you. ‘Cause you know what? Sometimes laughing really is the best medicine. 🔗 Links & Resources EPISODE 46: The Hygiene Episode ➡️ https://vmtherapy.com/episode46 EPISODE 198: Stop Doing THIS If You Want More Sex ➡️ https://vmtherapy.com/episode198 ❤️ Ready to go deeper? Let’s be honest, everyone has an ick or two. But if you’re feeling more disconnected, more irritable, or less turned on than you’d like… it might be time to reconnect in a more intentional way. Inside our monthly membership Deeper, we help you explore what really turns you on —mentally, emotionally, and physically. You’ll get access to our member library of courses and guides , plus live calls, date night ideas, and support from a like-minded community. Because when you’re truly connected… the little things don’t ick you out as much. 👉 Join Deeper today. Because intimacy is the whole point. https://vmtherapy.com/deeper 🎧 Stay connected: 📸 Follow us on Instagram ➡️ https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander 💌 Get our weekly email — with behind-the-scenes stories, expert tips, and so many sex puns. Sign up here 👉🏻 vmtherapy.com/subscribe 🎧 Never miss an episode! Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you listen to pods! ================================== THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS ================================== 👏Thanks Remi. Give your teeth a break without breaking the bank with Remiand save up to 50%. ➡︎ https://shopremi.com/PILLOW 👏 Thanks Cure. Get 20% off your first order. Stay hydrated and feel your best! ➡︎ https://curehydration.com/PILLOW Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0

My husband randomly takes his p-s-out and flops it around as a form of communicating that he is thinking about sex.

0:07.5

It gives me the ick.

0:09.6

Ah, the old flopperuni.

0:14.1

Is that the actual technique?

0:16.0

Yeah, the flopperuni.

0:17.9

An advanced initiation technique?

0:19.9

All men know about the flopperuni.

0:28.5

Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks podcast.

0:32.1

We're your host, Vanessa.

0:33.5

And Zander Marin.

0:34.8

I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience. And I'm just a regular dude.

0:39.3

We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours.

0:45.1

Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice,

0:51.6

hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom

0:55.8

doors and so much more.

0:58.1

It's the sex education you wish you'd had.

1:02.9

We're back.

1:03.9

We're back today to talk more about the ick.

1:08.4

So if you missed last week's episode, we did a deep dive on getting the ick

1:13.6

in relationships, which is it really has been used more as a dating term. Like you're on your

1:19.0

second or third date with somebody and they do something like something small, but it just

1:23.4

feels weird. It gives you the ick. It makes you not interested in continuing to see them.

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