Hi there, this is High Performance, the award-winning podcast that unlocks the minds of some of the most fascinating people on the planet.

I'm Jake Cumpfrey and alongside Professor Damier Hughes, we learn from the stories, successes and struggles of our guests, allowing us all to explore, be challenged and to grow.

And before we get going, please be aware this might be a difficult conversation for you to hear as our guest talks about the trauma of losing his child.

Here's what's coming up today.

I thought I'm going to stand up out my chair, because if they walk in and tell me to sit down, I know it's serious.

A team of about four people walks in.

So, you please take a seat.

Every single second of every single day, I was scared.

I was in pain, but I was fearful that every single second could be my last second of my daughter.

I am fighting for the rest of my life out of the hope that if I'm a good enough person and I do enough good things, that when I take my final few breaths,

it will be a beautiful moment because I'll be at peace, because I know that I've achieved enough to make it up there to be with her again for eternity.

There's no time that it's too late because you always have to day.

It's never too late to reach your potential. It's never too late to be your best self.

And today is always the best time to start.

So, this is a conversation with former footballer, former reality TV star, and now charity campaigner Ashley Kane.

Look, Ashley talks in incredibly honest, searing and moving detail about the loss of his beautiful daughter, Azalea.

Obviously, the deep love he has for her shines through in this conversation.

But there's also a really interesting insight here into how human beings react to trauma.

It's an insight into the energy that they can find, that sense of purpose that Ashley has absolutely discovered in his life.

In fact, as you'll hear in this conversation, he now reflects on his younger life and refers to it as the last years where he was just floating along no purpose, no pride, no true understanding of who and what he was.

Of course, nobody wants to go through the trauma that Ashley's gone through.

But there's so much for us to learn from a man who has experienced so many things at such a young age.

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