E200 | What to Do When Trying to Help Makes Things Worse

The Art Of Coaching

Brett Bartholomew

Health & Fitness, Business, Education

5 • 642 Ratings

🗓️ 13 December 2021

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

It’s a frustrating situation. You’re going out of your way to help someone out and it’s just not taking. You can’t get through to them. They don’t want to listen. You might even feel like your attempt to help has made the situation worse. What gives!? Help me, help you. Help me…Help you! You might be surprised to hear that maybe you’re the problem. In this short, digestible, actionable episode I cover the strategies and tools necessary for you to gain clarity of the situation so that you can create buy-in and have the impact you’re looking for. Including: The most likely reasons you’re probably not getting across to someone 8 questions you should ask yourself before diving into problem solving mode The ONE thing you must have in order to help someone effectively Defining social agility and strategies to improve it Right now I’m offering signed and personalized copies of my book, Conscious Coaching for just $10 (50% off the Amazon price). Go to artofcoaching.com/book to get yours (supplies are limited)! Also, be sure to check out our new gift guide at artofcoaching.com/shop - included are new t-shirts, sweats, beanies, mugs and even some graphic tees. If you’re still gift hunting, these are perfect for any coach or leader. Only THREE spots remain at our NY/NJ Apprenticeship, January 22-23, 2022! Click here to get yours today! Finally, a big shoutout to our sponsors. LMNT is offering a FREE sample pack of 8 flavors (just pay $5 shipping). Head to DrinkLMNT.com/AOC to claim yours. To get all of our partner discounts for Momentous, SAGA, VersaClimber, DFND and Ice Barrel, click here to learn more.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Art of Coaching Podcast, a show aimed at getting to the core of what
0:10.8	it takes to change attitudes, behaviors, and outcomes in the weight room, board room,
0:15.7	classroom, and everywhere in between.
0:18.6	I'm your host, Brett Bartholmue.
0:20.0	I'm a performance coach, keynote speaker, and the author of the book, Conscious Coaching.
0:24.6	But most importantly, I'm a lifelong student interested keynote speaker, and the author of the book, Conscious Coaching. But most importantly, I'm a lifelong student
0:26.6	interested in all aspects of human behavior
0:29.2	and communication.
0:30.6	I want to thank you for joining me.
0:32.0	And now let's dive into today's episode. All right, everybody. Hey, welcome back. We have a really tight short episode today,
0:45.6	and hopefully something that is very helpful to you.
0:48.3	And this is all centered around when you have
0:50.4	a disagreement with somebody that really thought
0:52.8	you were trying to help or you intended to try to help.
0:55.6	Those situations where you feel like,
0:57.4	okay, I was just trying to come into their space,
0:59.6	be useful, help them solve a problem,
1:02.4	and it seems like I either threaten them or made them angry.
1:05.8	And I don't know what just happened.
1:07.9	And I can think of several times this occurred with me where I was just trying to fix a problem.
1:12.8	It seemed like somebody was venting and I went in and thinking about everything I could do
1:17.7	to make it better because that's just how my mind works.
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