E193: The Things We Can’t Say In The Comments

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 2.6K Ratings

🗓️ 30 January 2025

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Summary

Ever wonder what we really want to say when someone leaves a spicy comment on one of our social media posts? Well, you’re in for a treat. Social media has been an incredible way to connect with our community, share free resources, and help couples build their best relationships. But putting ourselves out there also means we encounter some… interesting feedback. In this episode, we’re diving into the comment sections of our most viral posts. From debates about quickie intimacy to whether or not you should “fuck first,” we’re breaking down the conversations, sharing what we wish we could’ve said, and offering our advice to help you create a happier, healthier love life—trolls not included. Links & Resources: Reignite your love life in just 7 days? ➡︎ https://shop.vmtherapy.com/your-best-week-ever/?ref=podcast-193&utm_term=podcast-193 Treat Your Partner to the Best F0replay they've ever had: https://shop.vmtherapy.com/foreplay-guides-2022/?ref=podcast-193&utm_term=podcast-193 Check out our NYT best selling book Sex Talks: ➡︎ https://sextalksbook.com/?ref=podcast-193&utm_term=podcast-193 Connect with us! 👋 Instagram ➡︎ https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander Our VIP Email list: ➡︎ https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe Thanks Cozy Earth. Go to cozyearth.com/pillowtalks and use code PILLOWTALKS for an exclusive discount for up to 40% off. Thanks Hungryroot. That’s Hungryroot.com/pillow, to get 40% off your first box and a free item of your choice for life. Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow Thanks Cure. Stay hydrated and feel your best! Visit curehydration.com/PILLOW to get 20% off your first order. Thanks Goodwipes. Goodwipes will elevate your everyday hygiene with premium wipes that deliver a superior clean that no dry toilet paper can match. Goodwipes is naturally scented and hypoallergenic. Free from harsh chemicals, parabens, and dyes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	You're just doing this to get like rage bade. You're just doing this for engagement just to get people
0:06.0	upset and angry. All caps. Explain yourselves. That is wildly inappropriate. My husband wouldn't
0:12.9	have a dick left if he asked me that.
0:24.0	Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks podcast. We're your host, Vanessa, and Xander Marin.
0:27.2	I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.
0:30.3	And I'm just a regular dude.
0:31.9	We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Make sure you
0:38.1	subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship
0:43.1	advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so
0:49.3	much more. It's the sex education you wish you'd had.
1:01.0	So a couple of months ago, we did a very raw personal episode.
1:04.7	I think we called it a brutally honest life check-in or something like that.
1:08.9	And we talked a lot about just real things that were going on in our lives. And one of the things we ended up talking a lot about was some frustrations that we were feeling with the podcast or just the challenge of not
1:16.6	really being able to interact with listeners. Like we can't really hear back from you in the moment or
1:21.8	you know, quickly thereafter, like what you guys are thinking, what you're wanting more of, what you
1:26.2	like. And we did end up getting a lot of great feedback from you guys over social media.
1:31.0	Go to a different platform to give us the feedback, which is really great to hear.
1:35.2	If you haven't listened to that episode, it's definitely worth checking out.
1:37.7	We talked about a lot of other stuff too, not just the podcast.
1:40.9	But I thought, you know, why don't we talk about some of the challenges that come up
1:46.9	with social media, too, because a lot of people were like, oh, don't, you know, we love the podcast.
1:52.1	Like, yeah, following you on social is fun, but like I feel way more connected to you on the podcast.
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