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The thing about those fear systems that are telling you about, they're fully developed in the unborn child.

So before some of the physical attributes of a human being are fully functional, the fear systems fully functional,

so we're primed for fear, we're wired for fear.

Fear is a lazy way to motivate. Fear is a short term way to motivate and the cost is too high.

Because then you're walking around with the terror of doing it next time.

So relationships take us a while to build because we don't actually connect fully as ourselves.

There's lots of other reasons, but I'm honing in on that piece of it.

Mostly we're in some kind of performative mode, some kind of performance when we're in a relationship.

We can go on for months, we can go on forever in families and you know where you show only a part of you.

Soulfulness, care of the soul, as I think of it, is allowing us to be fully human in the pursuit of those incredible goals.

The pursuit of the kind of life that we'll be happy with. If we try and make it more pedestrian, colder, more formal, more industrialised, more engineered, and we leave out that stuff,

we're working with half of what a human being is.

And if we want to find real excellence surely we have to work with that whole thing.

This was a really interesting conversation. It's time for us to maybe think about redefining how we see success.

I think we see success in achievement in a really linear way.

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