Dysfunctional Childhood Types & How they Impact your Life with Laura K. Connell, Trauma Informed Coach EP482
ProjectME with Tiffany Carter – Entrepreneurship & Millionaire Mindset
Tiffany Carter
4.9 • 1.9K Ratings
🗓️ 23 January 2023
⏱️ 54 minutes
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Summary
Hard truth…I wish I knew sooner.
Some people don't love you; they just love the benefits that come with you.
The fastest way to weed them out is to set boundaries and observe whose behavior changes.
A funny thing happens when we start to prioritize our needs and please ourselves; some people in our lives will become displeased. As you having weak boundless highly benefited them.
At one point in my life, almost everyone in it was TAKING from me, and I was letting them.
> Some drained my energy
> Some drained my bank account
> Some drained my confidence
As a recovering codependent and people pleaser, I didn't know how to all of a sudden set boundaries and new rules without pissing these people off.
A wise mentor of mine said to me, "to avoid upsetting people, you're willing to sacrifice your life?"
Well dang, when she put it that way!
This is exactly why as your coach, I will always give it to you straight, as the tough truths and wisdom are what we need to hear (not always what we want to hear).
If you state your clear priorities, needs, desires, and limitations make people upset and leave you, they never loved to begin with…they loved what did for them or what they could get from you.
I brought an expert in dysfunctional dynamics and relationships on the podcast (@LauraKConnell), so you can deeply understand where the need to people please comes from.
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| 0:00.0 | hard truth I wish I knew sooner. Some people don't love you. They just love the benefits |
| 0:06.4 | that come with you. And the fastest way to weed them out is to set boundaries and observe |
| 0:11.8 | whose behavior changes. And a funny thing happens when we start to prioritize our needs and |
| 0:16.9 | please ourselves. Some people in our lives will become displeased, as you having weak boundaries |
| 0:23.8 | highly benefited them. At one point in my life, almost everyone in it was taking from me, |
| 0:29.3 | and I was letting them, some drained my energy, some drained my bank account, some drained |
| 0:33.5 | my components. As a recovering codependent and people pleaser, I didn't know how to all of |
| 0:39.3 | a sudden set boundaries and new rules with these people without pissing them off. And a wise mentor |
| 0:45.9 | of mine said to me, so to avoid upsetting people Tiffany, you're willing to sacrifice your life |
| 0:52.3 | and well-being. Well, dang, when she put it that way. This is exactly why as your coach, I will |
| 0:59.3 | always give it to you straight. As the tough truths and wisdom are what we need to hear, |
| 1:05.9 | not always what we want to hear. If you stating your clear priorities needs desires and limitations, |
| 1:13.5 | make people upset and leave you, then they never loved you to begin with. They loved what you did for |
| 1:20.6 | them or what they could get from you. I brought on an incredible expert in dysfunctional dynamics |
| 1:28.2 | and relationships onto the show today. Laura K. Connell has been featured in numerous major |
| 1:35.4 | publications, everything from the Toronto star to the globe to chicken soup for the soul. She's |
| 1:41.6 | an incredible writer and has a knack for being able to explain your role in all forms of relationships |
| 1:51.8 | in your life from career to your relationship with yourself, to intimacy, to your childhood, |
| 1:59.2 | and her new book is coming out that's published by Simon and Schuster. It's not your fault coming |
| 2:05.4 | soon this year, which I'll be really excited to share with you. |
| 2:11.0 | If you're tired of hearing the same old basic mindset and motivational fluff talk, |
| 2:16.0 | you've come to the right show. Welcome to Project B with Tiffany Carter, the podcast, where we |
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