Dropping State Names, Double-Thanking for Gifts, Arriving at Funerals Early, and More
Were You Raised By Wolves?
Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema
4.7 • 1.8K Ratings
🗓️ 23 February 2026
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dropping state names, double-thanking for gifts, arriving early for funerals, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.)
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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:
- When is a city sufficiently well known not to need the state name with it?
- Is it bad form to text a photo of yourself enjoying a gift after you've already sent a thank-you note?
- Is it true that you should arrive at weddings and funerals half an hour early?
- What should I do about a holiday postcard that was misaddressed and includes a lot of personal information?
- What should I do about store employees who address me as "dear," "hun," or "sweetheart"?
- Bonkers: Grabbing produce bags at the supermarket
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| 0:00.0 | Hey there, it's Nick. |
| 0:01.0 | And it's Leah. |
| 0:01.9 | A real quick thing before we get going, would you please follow our show in whatever app you're using to listen to us right now? Yeah, you don't even have to listen. You could just hit follow and it would really mean a lot to us. Yeah, there's probably like a follow button or maybe there's a bell or a plus sign. Like there's some symbol somewhere and then you'll get notified whenever we have a new episode. We would so appreciate it. |
| 0:22.7 | We really would. |
| 0:23.3 | It makes a huge difference for our show. like there's some symbol somewhere, and then you'll get notified whenever we have a new episode. |
| 0:21.4 | We would so appreciate it. We really would. It makes a huge difference for our show, so please do that. |
| 0:25.9 | Thank you so much. And now let's start the show. Let's get in it. |
| 0:32.0 | Hey everybody, it's Nick Layton. And it's Leah Bonema. And we had so many great questions from you all in the wilderness. |
| 0:37.8 | Oh! |
| 0:40.5 | That we've a bonus episode. |
| 0:42.0 | So here we go. |
| 0:42.8 | Our first question is, quote, |
| 0:44.4 | When do you know if your city is sufficiently well known to merit the answer of just the name without the state when asked, where are you from? |
| 0:52.5 | Places like Chicago, New York, Los Angeles, Seattle, |
| 0:55.8 | they're probably iconic enough to need no further details. But is it rude to presume others |
| 1:01.4 | will know where you mean if you say Rochester, Portland, Springfield, or Reno, just to name a few? |
| 1:07.6 | On one hand, it seems arrogant to assume people will know what I mean if I respond |
| 1:11.7 | with Scottsdale, especially internationally. But on the other hand, it could also be quite |
| 1:16.9 | condescending to say Scottsdale, Arizona, in the United States, since most other country's |
| 1:22.3 | citizens are far more geographically well-versed than folks here and probably know exactly what I mean |
| 1:28.0 | without the extra details. |
| 1:29.8 | How do you know when to be specific to spare that other person the potential embarrassment of |
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