Dr. Warren Farrell - What's Weighing Down Young Men?

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Connor Beaton

Relationships, Education, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.8 • 591 Ratings

🗓️ 7 October 2024

⏱️ 59 minutes

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Talking points: culture, masculinity, relationships Warren’s been a consistent and committed voice for men for decades now, an it’s been far too long since we’ve talked, so when I wanted to get some insight on how things have changed—or not—he was the obvious choice! We cover the complexity of what “makes” a man, get into politics, and some solid practical advice for couples. Enjoy and dig in. (00:00:00) - What’s happening to young men in today’s culture (00:09:47) - Warren’s take on why there seems to be negation or dismantling of biological underpinnings of maleness (00:17:53) - Is there really a difference between men and women, and Warren on listening first, solving second (00:26:08) - Why do we see a gender divide in politics? (00:36:06) - What Warren would say to men in their 20s and 30s (00:41:54) - On Warren’s book Role Mate To Soul Mate, and what makes falling in love easy but sustaining love difficult (00:52:27) - Advice if you feel like you’re always walking on eggshells with your partner Warren Farrell, PhD, has been chosen by the Financial Times of London as one of the world’s top 100 thought leaders. His books are published in 19 languages. They include The New York Times bestseller Why Men Are the Way They Are, and the international bestseller The Myth of Male Power. Dr. Farrell presented the findings of The Boy Crisis (2018) worldwide, from the White House to the Norwegian Parliament. It was a catalyst for bipartisan legislation for father involvement in Florida. Dr. Farrell’s most recent book, Role Mate to Soul Mate: The Seven Secrets to Lifelong Love (2024), is based on his teaching couples’ communication for the past 30 years to more than a thousand couples and psychologists. Warren has been a pioneer in both the women’s movement (elected three times to the Board of the National Organization for Women in NYC) and the men’s movement (called by GQ “The Martin Luther King of the men’s movement”). He advocates for a “Gender Liberation Movement, freeing both sexes from the rigid roles of the past.” His life journey is the subject of a forthcoming documentary. *** Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	All right, Dr. Farrell, welcome back to The Man Talk Show. How are you doing today?
0:10.9	Doing very well, and I'm so glad to be back with you. I remember a really wonderful connection with you last time.
0:17.1	Yeah, we had a really good conversation, and I hadn't realized that it had been so long. We had, you were here in 2018. Yes. Which is crazy. I thought it was just a couple years ago. But I guess I think. It was when both of us were teenagers, I think. That's right. I was just graduating high school. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I was saying a lot had changed. And I was like, I think, you know, we talked in 2020, 2021. But no, it was 2018. And so a lot has happened since then, which is marvelous. But there's so much I wanted to talk to you about. And we're going to talk about your new book. But what I really want to start with is what's happening with men culturally.
0:56.0	And so in your estimation, we're going to start broad. What's happening to young men in today's
1:01.9	culture and what are some of the forces that you think are pressing on the male psyche in Western
1:07.4	society? I'd say probably what I found when I did the research for the boy crisis book is
1:13.6	unfortunately even more true today. I hear more boys today saying some version of, I wish I hadn't
1:22.0	been born male. And saying that because they hear in school that if you're born male, you're part of the patriarchy,
1:30.1	which means that you, you know, you're part of a system in which the rules were made to benefit men at the expense of women.
1:36.3	You're an oppressor and the women are oppressed.
1:40.3	They're hearing that the future is female.
1:42.6	They're hearing masculinity being described as toxic,
1:46.3	not sometimes toxic and not women and men can both have toxic masculinity and femininity. That would be
1:52.8	fine. But when they hear it's only males described as being toxic. It's just sort of like they,
1:59.0	they look inside of themselves and they say, you know, they look at D.
2:02.9	If they're in college, which they're hearing a DEI and DEI, of course, diversity, equity and inclusion, but they are feeling, wait a minute, this is diversity, but it doesn't include me.
2:15.1	It doesn't, equity, but it doesn't include me. And inclusion, it
2:19.8	definitely doesn't include me. And the evidence is all around the Gender White House Gender Policy
2:26.1	Council. This is a gender policy council explicitly excludes men and boys from their considerations.
2:33.9	So how can you have a gender policy council that excludes men and boys from their considerations. So how can you have a gender policy
2:36.7	council that excludes men, which means, by the way, it excludes gay men and it excludes black men.
2:42.6	There's no group of men that are more in greater jeopardy as a group than black males in today's
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