Dr. Ramani on Outsmarting Narcissists and Protecting Your Peace (Replay)

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Education, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 30 December 2024

⏱️ 68 minutes

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By now, you’re probably proficient at spotting narcissistic behaviors in people and relationships you are involved with. You may notice gaslighting or maybe you haven’t been able to put a finger on exactly what seems to be off, but if you’re honest you know something isn’t right. Spotting narcissism and knowing someone is portraying narcissistic behaviors isn’t enough if you’re going to protect yourself. Dr. Ramani Durvasula joins Lisa for round 2 to break down the rules of engagement. Understanding that some women are unable to get away from the narcissistic relationship they’ve been “stuck” in for years does not call for judgement. As Dr. Ramani clearly iterates, leaving these kinds of unhealthy relationships are never easy, and there is also no need for judgement. SHOW NOTES: Words Hurt | Why words hurt more than we like to admit and the damage being done [2:45] No Leaving | Dr. Ramani explains why some people can’t leave and how they survive [7:25] Don’t Defend | Why it’s not about being a doormat, it’s about not engaging in toxic routine [8:36] Apology Cycle | Differentiating someone who is sorry or a repeat offender to shut down [14:21] Narcissistic Parents | Why these kinds of parents are tricky and how to deal with them [15:55] Happiness | Dr. Ramani discusses if true happiness is possible with a narcissist [22:05] Staying In It | Dr. Ramani explains why people stay in narcissistic relationships [25:17] Empathy | Dr. Ramani shares having empathy for narcissist in an empowering way [27:26] Support | How to best aide people leaving narcissistic relationships that are scared [34:05] Once You Know | Dr. Ramani’s advice on what to do and not do once you know [37:46] Responding | How to get out of dodge when under verbal attack and hold the tears [44:29] Good News | Dr. Ramani explains why you never share good news with narcissists [49:04] Contempt | Looking for the contempt to identify narcissistic behaviors and not engage [51:45] No One’s Exempt | Dr. Ramani shares how even she still falls for the pity trap [56:16] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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