Hello and welcome to Happy Place. I'm Fern Cotton and this is the show that

looks for ways to better cope with daily stresses. Today I'm meeting Dr. Julie.

Your brain learns through experience so if you can stay in a situation until your

body pretty much exhausts itself so it habituates to the situation then your

brain clocks one bit of evidence that hey I can be in this situation and I

survive it. So the next time you then go into that situation your anxiety

still goes up but it's a tiny bit less because you've got this evidence that you

can get through it and so the more you do that the more that the response

you know the stress response gets less and less each time. Dr. Julie is a

clinical psychologist and a social media sensation. I absolutely love her

videos. She's incredibly fun and engaging but she also really quickly gets to

the heart of mental health struggles we might be having and equips her

millions of followers with new tools and understanding and that straightforward

education is just so valuable at a time when access to therapy and mental

health services is so incredibly difficult for so many. Her book, Why Has

Nobody Told Me This Before, follows the same sort of ideas. It's basically all

the secrets from a therapist toolkit that arm you with the skills you need to

get through life's ups and downs and it is important to allow the down days to

happen. That's something we talk a lot about in this chat actually whether we

should be aiming to be happy all the time or if anxieties or fears can actually

sometimes service. I don't know about you but I'm never entirely sure how I feel

about New Year's resolutions. The intention to want to make an active change is

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