Nobody tells parents that for about two years you're going to have survival sex.

I am wearing my nursing bra.

You are wearing sweats.

We got nine minutes.

If we're going to do this, we're going to do this.

The prevailing wisdom when I was a little kid was, if you fight in front of the kids, you're going to scare them.

And what it did was it robbed kids of seeing their parents disagree and still be on the same team.

Just look at our political discourse now. If we disagree on something, I have to hate you.

We overuse the word need.

When I tell you, I need this, I have put my well-being in my life on you.

It's a way scary or way more vulnerable thing to say, I want.

How do we raise boys that are emotionally intelligent?

You want the Instagram answer or like the truthful answer?

I want the truth.

Okay.

We sat down with Dr. John Deloney, a mental health expert and host of the John Deloney show under the Dave Ramsey Network. John spent two decades in crisis response working as a university dean and

mental health counselor. He holds two PhDs and has written multiple bestselling books, but what

makes John so compelling isn't just

his credentials. He tells the truth, even when it's uncomfortable. We talk about why parents

should not be friends with their kids, as well as so much more all on today's episode.

Dr. John Deloney, welcome to the unplanned podcast. Dude, thank you for having me. That's awesome.

I feel like every time I see you on YouTube is always answering the most like intense

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