Dr. David Richo: Don’t Bring Childhood Wounds into Adult Relationships

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Mayim Bialik

Mental Health, Society & Culture, Wellness, Health & Fitness, Comedy, Thebigbangtheory, Spirituality, Selfimprovement, Mentalhealth

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🗓️ 22 August 2023

⏱️ 90 minutes

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Summary

David Richo PhD, MFT (psychotherapist, teacher, writer, and workshop leader) shows us how to become the best we can be at loving as he dispels the myths of what love actually is, explains how our relationships with our parents may unwittingly affect our romantic partnerships, and the key factors needed to build real trust. He discusses the changes he’s seen in relationships over the decades, the spiritual integrity component of successful relationships, and how the mindsets of ego can negatively impact any relationship. Dr. Richo demonstrates practical language used to strengthen a relationship after conflict and shares ways to identify candidates who are qualified to be in a healthy adult relationship. He reveals how his findings hold up when considering polyamorous connections, how fear manifests itself in relationships, why expressing appreciation should never be underestimated, and why we are more likely to be emotionally satisfied during the \"honeymoon stage.\" Dr. Rich also explains how to mirror healthy love for your children, the actual forms of nurturing kids crave from their parents, and practical ways to teach children independence.

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0:00.0	In essence, a relationship is too... makes me cry, two children tugging at each other's
0:10.7	sleeve, shouting in unison, look what happened to me when I was a kid, make it stop and make
0:17.0	it better for me.
0:19.6	This knocked me over.
0:22.8	And to think that, you know, a partnership which also has so much beauty and joy, also
0:29.5	has this in the pain.
0:32.4	What came to mind when you're reading that is a quote from, I think it's Sechariah,
0:36.8	this is a quote from the Bible.
0:39.0	Look at how I was wounded in the house of those who loved me, the shock of betrayal when
0:48.6	you realize that it looked like they loved me and then they turned against me in some way,
0:58.8	at some point, could it be that they turned against me when they saw who I really am?
1:08.3	And this makes it very scary to be free, free to be who you are in the world and really
1:18.0	trust that it's going to be okay.
1:21.5	And yes, we are children like children who are hoping sometimes hoping against hope that
1:31.1	somebody will love me as I always wanted to be loved and my parents didn't come through
1:39.4	in that way, we might think, and can also be the truth that they didn't come across in
1:47.7	a truly loving way and we're no longer blaming them, but we are acknowledging that it's
2:02.5	still affecting us.
2:04.3	Hi, I'm Iambiala and I'm Jonathan Cohen.
2:21.6	Welcome to our breakdown.
2:22.8	This is the place where we break things down so you don't have to.
2:26.5	Today we're going to break down how the heck to be an adult in relationships, period.
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