Dr. Becky Kennedy: Protocols for Excellent Parenting & Improving Relationships of All Kinds

Huberman Lab

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Science, Life Sciences, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 23.3K Ratings

🗓️ 26 February 2024

⏱️ 174 minutes

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In this episode, my guest is Dr. Becky Kennedy, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and founder of Good Inside, an education platform for parents and parents-to-be. We discuss actionable protocols for raising resilient, emotionally healthy kids and effective alternatives to typical forms of reward and punishment that instead teach children valuable skills and strengthen the parent-child bond. These protocols also apply to other types of relationships: professional, romantic, friendships, siblings, etc. We explain how to respond to emotional outbursts, rudeness, and entitlement, repair fractured relationships, build self-confidence, and improve interpersonal connections with empathy while maintaining healthy boundaries. We also discuss how to effectively communicate with children and adults with ADHD, anxiety, learning challenges, or with “deeply feeling” individuals. The conversation is broadly applicable to all types of social interactions and bonds. By the end of the episode, you will have learned simple yet powerful tools to build healthy relationships with kids, teens, adults, and oneself. For show notes, including referenced articles and additional resources, please visit hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Mateína: https://drinkmateina.com/huberman Joovv: https://joovv.com/huberman AeroPress: https://aeropress.com/huberman InsideTracker: https://insidetracker.com/huberman Momentous: https://livemomentous.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Dr. Becky Kennedy (00:02:44) Sponsors: Mateína, Joovv & AeroPress (00:07:35) Healthy Relationships: Sturdiness, Boundaries & Empathy (00:14:34) Tool: Establishing Boundaries (00:18:24) Rules, Boundaries & Connection (00:22:19) Rewards & Punishments; Skill Building (00:29:48) Sponsor: AG1 (00:31:16) Kids & Inherent Good (00:34:06) Family Jobs, Validation & Confidence, Giving Hope (00:41:54) Rewards, Pride (00:44:48) Tool: “I Believe You”, Confidence & Safety; Other Relationships (00:52:15) Trauma, Aloneness & Repair (00:57:07) Tool: Repair & Apologies, Rejecting Apology (01:01:04) Tool: Good Apologies (01:03:35) Sponsor: InsideTracker (01:04:37) Tool: Rudeness & Disrespect, Most Generous Interpretation (01:12:32) Walking on Eggshells, Pilot Analogy & Emotional Outbursts, Sturdy Leadership (01:20:49) Deeply Feeling Kids; Fears, Sensory Overload (01:30:10) Co-Parenting Differences & Punishment (01:37:11) Tool: Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD); Meditation (01:41:20) Tool: Tolerating Frustration, Screen Time, Learning (01:51:57) Grace & Parenthood, Parenting Job Description; Relationship to Self (01:55:24) Tool: “I’m Noticing”, Asking Questions; Emotional Regulation (02:01:15) Adolescence & Critical Needs, Explorers vs. Nomads (02:09:58) Saying “I Love You”, Teenagers; Family Meetings (02:15:07) Self-Care, Rage & Boundaries; Sturdy Leaders; Parent Relationship & Conflict (02:22:08) Tool: Wayward Teens, Marijuana & Substance Use, Getting Additional Help (02:30:03) Mentors (02:34:26) Tool: Entitlement, Fear & Frustration (02:41:57) Tool: Experiencing Frustration; Chores & Allowance (02:46:31) Good Inside Platform (02:51:27) Zero-Cost Support, Spotify & Apple Reviews, YouTube Feedback, Sponsors, Momentous, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter Disclaimer

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Huberman Lab Podcast, where we discuss science and science-based tools for everyday life.
0:06.0	I'm Andrew Huberman and I'm a professor of neurobiology and ophthalmology at Stanford School of Medicine.
0:15.8	My guest today is Dr. Becky Kennedy.
0:18.4	Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist specializing in parent Child Relationships.
0:24.0	She received her degrees and did her training
0:26.0	at Duke University and Columbia University in New York.
0:30.0	She is the author of the best-selling book Good Inside, a guide to becoming the parent you want to be.
0:35.6	She is also the founder and creator of an online learning platform, also called Good Inside,
0:40.6	at which parents and parents to be can learn the best possible parenting skills
0:45.8	that are grounded in the fields of clinical psychology that have been proven to work in the real world
0:50.3	and that can allow people to navigate common sticking points in parent-child
0:54.6	relationships. During today's discussion you will learn a tremendous amount of
0:58.4	actionable knowledge about what it is to be a good parent.
1:02.5	This is a conversation that pertains not just to parents
1:05.4	and parents to be, but also uncles, aunts, grandparents,
1:08.8	and also those of you not planning to
1:11.4	or who do not want children.
1:13.6	I say that because while everything we discussed today
1:16.4	is grounded in the discussion around parent-child relationships,
1:19.9	it indeed pertains to all of us and relationships of all kinds, including romantic relationships,
1:25.0	friendships, workplace relationships, and our relationship to self.
1:29.5	Dr. Kennedy defines for us and makes clear and actionable what the exact job of good parenting
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