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Welcome to the Double X GapFist for Thursday, June 27th, the Monogamish Sex Edition.

I'm Hannah Rosen, editor of Double X.

I'm in the D.C. studio studio and I'm joined in New York by Alison

Benedict, the other double X editor. Hi, Allison. Hi, guys. And Noreen Malone from the New

Republic. Hi, Noreen. Hello. So our three topics for today are the Defense of Marriage Act

has been struck down by the Supreme Court. And what do we do about the fact that many gay couples

are probably not monogamous? How do we incorporate that into our idea of marriage? And by the way, this happened just, you know, hours, hour, barely an hour before we started recording this podcast. So we're really happy about that. Second, we're going to talk about the amazing Texas filibuster about abortion. And third, we're going to talk about toddler fashion. And why is that a thing now that we have to talk about? So before we actually get started with our podcast, I want to do something a little different. We've been getting a lot of great feedback from our listeners to pass podcasts. If you guys will remember, last podcast we talked about having just one child and we had Lauren Sandler on.

And Clara Gillott, I hope I'm pronouncing that correctly, took us to task because she said that even though Allison and I both have three children, O'Norine comes from a big family, that we didn't really defend ourselves well.

We just kind of caved.

And she says, Allison and Hannah were apologetic for their choices rather than providing an alternative viewpoint to the guests.

Props to Noreen for making the one criticism.

And the one thing Clara wanted to say is that she doesn't think that having more children takes her away from society.

She actually thinks that it puts her back into this world and contributes to a better world. So I just wanted to put that out there. Next time we will defend our lifestyle choices a little more forcefully. Okay. Let's go back for the Defense of Marriage Act. This is an incredibly exciting moment in American history. The Defense of Marriage Act was struck down. This makes it very likely that gay marriage will be decided state by state and become increasingly accepted. For the moment, gay couples have presented themselves as being very much like straight couples. The Supreme Court couple is an old-time lesbian couple. They've been together forever. They're loyal. They're monogamous. And they're mostly talking about sharing assets. But the truth is that studies show that many gay couples are not monogamous. Some studies

show that most are not monogamous. Some studies show that 50% are not monogamous. And not in the cheating

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