Hi everybody, welcome to the women's dating and confidence podcast. My name is Amber, and today

we're going to be talking about maintaining your relationship rather than working on it.

Before we get into that, I want to share with you my free guide called copy and paste text for when

he's pulling away or acting

flaky. The link for that is going to be in the show notes of this episode. Also, if you're

interested in working together and learning more about my coaching program called From Dating

to Exclusive, where I teach you the skills and the tools and the knowledge that you need to create

an exclusive relationship, then check out the link in the tools and the knowledge that you need to create an exclusive relationship.

Then check out the link in the show notes and you can see examples of women who have gone through the program and what they learned from it,

as well as more information about the program and what all is included.

So let's talk about this idea of maintaining a relationship rather than working on a

relationship. This is important because so many people kind of rave about couples therapy.

And I think one thing that people don't realize is that couples therapy will not fix a relationship

that was broken from the beginning. Meaning if there was something that was fundamentally

missing in the relationship from the beginning, you can't just go to couples therapy two years in

to try and make up for that or try to mend that. So if you got together for the wrong reasons,

for example, pressure from other people or society or pressure from yourself because you were maybe doubtful about finding everything

that you want and need in one person. If you got together for on-paper standards, as I call them,

meaning who the person is in the world rather than who they are with you and to you.

If you have one of the five elements missing in terms of friendship, the attraction, growth, respect, vision, and values,

then we can't work on a relationship enough to make it work.

And that's just an important shift to make because it shows up even in early dating when there are things that are fundamentally missing

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