Okay, so this is part two of our series about what it means to be an inconvenient woman.

What does that really mean?

Now, I just want to set things straight.

This is not going to be an episode where I share with you my month-long vacation in Bali

away from my whole family to be an inconvenient woman.

That's never happened.

I don't think that's really accessible for most of us.

And that is really, really most of us. And that is

really, really kind of far away from the pragmatic kind of day to day that we all live.

I want to share with you something that to me is the essence of what I think about around being an

inconvenient woman. And I just want you to take whatever you imagine and bring it

down like 39 notches, okay? Because the story that comes to mind that I think about all the time

is this moment in an airport that has to do with my coffee order.

And if you're thinking, Becky, are you going to talk to me for the next 20-something minutes about your coffee order?

You bet I am because in this moment, my whole past came alive.

I think so many ideas around gender came alive.

In some ways, the conflict between taking care of my own needs

and taking care of someone else's imagined needs all came alive. And I want to dissect this because I think

we have moments like this every single day. And if we, instead of running past this,

kind of elongate, what is really happening? And how does our past come into play today?

And how can we shift things a little bit?

And what do we have to get ready for?

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