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Welcome to mom and dad are fighting slates Parenting Podcast for Thursday, October the 18th,

The Don't Look Free Child Care in the Mouth Edition.

I'm Gabriel Roth.

I'm the editorial director for podcast at Slate and I'm the father of Eliza who's seven and

Leo who is four. I'm Rebecca Laveoy I'm a journalist and podcaster from New Hampshire

and I am mom to Henry who is 17, Teddy who is 15 and a half, and my stepdaughter Lily, who is 18.

And I'm Carvel Wallace, a writer and a podcaster in Oakland, California, and I'm the father

to Georgia, who was 13 and Ezra, who was 15. Today on our show we have a question about what happens when you see your own family dynamics

playing out amongst your kids.

We have another about the ever-frought intersection of the topics of grandparents and screams.

Plus, as always, we have triumphs, we have fails.

We'll make recommendations on Slate Plus, Carvel has an update on Ezra's ADHD treatment. It's going to be a great show. Let's go. Triumph

Fails Rebecca. You want to go first? Yeah, mine is a really small one that if anyone out there follows me on Instagram already knows about because a couple of listeners did post when I posted this triumph and I was like totally.

I don't know what's going on with Teddy but last night he was helping Kevin

clean up the kitchen after dinner and then was like, guy we had to finish doing

this we had to finish doing these dishes because I got to sit down and do my homework.

And I was like, what?

Is that just code for I want to go back to my computer and play more of whatever video game

you're playing?

But no, he sat down at the kitchen table and proceeded to do his psychology homework

Granted it took him all of seven minutes so who knows if he did a good job or a terrible job

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