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Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

Good morning. This is Laura.

Welcome to the Before Breakfast Podcast.

Today's tip is about how to stop wasting time and mental energy,

ruminating over useless feedback.

In other words, how to keep criticism from stinging.

First, I want to say that constructive feedback is a real gift.

Someone can be mean and nasty, but if that person gives you practical suggestions for how to

improve something that matters to you, you're best off thanking the person. You don't

have to be friends, but you can be grateful. That said, not all feedback is constructive. I was

thinking of this recently when I got a letter from a before breakfast

listener who leads a church. This minister lost a close family member shortly before Christmas.

It was too late to find someone else to lead all the holiday services, so the

minister did so while deep in grief. Then she received a note from a parishioner who knew about the death

saying that her holiday preaching was subpar. Ouch. In this situation the listener knew that this criticism wasn't really fair, but as she

ruminated about it she wondered looking forward if there was a way to spend less

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