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today. Thank you for downloading the focus on the family marriage podcast. You

can find more relationship insights at focusonthefamily.com slash marriage

podcast. Anyone who's been married for a while will tell you that trying to

change your spouse is just not a good idea. If something isn't important just

let it go. But there are times when you get so irritated. My wife moves fast and

she changes shoes a lot. And what I've noticed is she often changes shoes and

leaves the old pair right where I want to step. And so there's this collection,

this ongoing collection of shoes in some places. And I find myself sometimes

getting irritated and I kick the shoes and I realize why am I kicking those

shoes. It's just it's not a big deal. Let it go. I'm John Fuller joined by

Dr. Greg Smolley and his wife Aaron. They're in charge of our marriage team

here and I won't ask you to for all right Greg I will ask you for example. Why

did I know this was going to happen? So how have you learned to let go of

something that becomes an irritant to you? To kind of like the shoes like your

shoes are for me. You know probably one of the things that Aaron and I will

battle over that drives me crazy is just the the lights. I knew that's what he was

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