Our world is built with stories.

Sometimes these stories cause suffering by pulling us apart from ourselves and each other.

The liturgist podcast helps people love more and suffer less by pulling apart the stories that pull us apart.

Today's story single equals unlovable.

Oh boy, I can't believe I'm doing this. I feel kind of nervous. I don't know what.

Anyway, here goes.

Being single in the 80s and 90s in a southern fundamentalist conservative church nearly undid me,

I felt like such a loser on my friends were getting married and even though I may have been considered successful by a lot of societal measures,

I was still basically a loser because I was failing at the most important thing.

Of course, that was to find a husband and be a wife.

Every single one of my very close friends is engaged or married.

This has resulted in a lot of questioning my own worth.

I am perpetually single and it really has affected how I feel love, especially within my friendships.

I know that wanting to feel wanted is normal across the human experience,

but having always been single I've not usually set unrealistic expectations in my own mind of how a relationship

completely satisfy that need.

As a single person in the world today, I do feel a sense of being in loveable.

Being single causes me to struggle with feeling and worthy, unattractive, broken, alone.

Why not me or what's wrong with me? Why has no one ever loved me?

As a single 33 year old virgin who has never been in a long term relationship,

it's so hard for me to accept love.

I've wanted it, but at times I know I've rejected it, mainly because I battle to think I'm worth it.

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