I'm the cool dad. That's, that's my thing.

I know now what I can offer you that no one else can. Complete and undependent.

I'm a man. I'm sensitive. I need to feel loved. I need to be desired.

Yelling is the only part of being a father that I enjoy.

Welcome to Dear Old Dads, the podcast that knows that winning isn't everything.

It's the only thing. I'm Tom Curry. I'm joined as always by Thomas Smith and Eli Bosnick. Hello, gentlemen. Hello. I said it first. I won. I said first. I said before. That's true. I'm better. I've proved that I'm better at saying things because I said it first than Eli. It's true. One point for me. So this episode is inspired by the dear old dad's fan page where somebody posted a message. We just got to launch right into

it because there's a lot here. Yeah. Somebody posted a message about how they can't let their kids win.

They don't want to let their kids win. You know, they got kids. I think in the message,

they were relatively young, five and ten from the message and you know they were there was a

lot of back and forth there was a lot i was involved in it too because i got grumpy about it so about

whether or not you should let your kids win and i i'm particularly curious to have this conversation

with you thomas eli i know you would like you don't want Max to ever feel sad. I think everyone

should let my son win. Like what my beautiful golden boy is going to feel sad because of you. I'll

kill you with an ex. I'll kill you with an ex. I won't even remember. But there was a lot of back

and forth about about the value of losing and the value of making them try harder and all this

in my nonsense but yeah thomas i am curious where you land because you've got you've got kids that

are young and probably playing games and also i know you and i know you're incredibly competitive

so i'm curious specifically where you're at with the idea of letting your kids win. Well, there's a lot here because I think what we can't do is straw man and change the conversation. So you can't be like, oh, yeah, I'm going to try to play against my kids, make it a little hard. And then someone's like, oh, really? You're baby. You're just stopping. You're playing basketball against Remy, and you're just dunking on his, on his little infant face,

and you're throwing dunking on his, on his little infant face

and you're throwing the ball on this.

And you're like, no, I might be talking about a 15 year old kid. You know what I mean? Like we got to keep in mind what we're talking about. Because at first I was like, oh, I'm going to disagree with Tom. And then I was like, well, then I realized, like, I don't do that with young kids.

Like, yeah, that's a whole different thing.

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