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Dear Old Dads

DOD246: When You Want Takesies Backsies on Being a Parent

Dear Old Dads

Thomas Smith

Kids & Family, Society & Culture

4.8550 Ratings

🗓️ 19 December 2025

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Summary

What do you do when you regret being a parent and feel like the whole thing might have been a mistake? A listener writes in with these feelings and the dads are on it! It's probably a more common experience than you think. Unless you're Thomas.

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0:00.0

I'm the cool dad. That's, that's my thing.

0:09.7

I know now what I can offer you that no one else can. Complete and undependent.

0:16.7

I'm a man. I'm sensitive. I need to feel loved. I need to be desired.

0:23.1

Yelling is the only part of being a father that I enjoy.

0:29.1

Welcome to dear old dads, the podcast. I don't know what else to say. Hang on. I'm sorry. I got nothing. I thought I had to go to.

0:37.7

Oh, no.

0:38.1

The nihilism got to Tom. It ate me up. It ate me up. Ah, shit. It's a podcast. I'm Tom Curry. I'm joined as always by Thomas Smith and Eli Bosnick. Hello, gentlemen. This is a podcast? Fucking quitteritis over here. I had something and then I didn't have it.

0:54.1

Boots-Miggi on last week's episode

0:56.3

is here to tell you it's too hard to come up with that blank. Okay. All right. Yeah, it's true. That's very, very true. I'd say it was really hard to me because you'd have to remember what the episode's going to be about and I can't do that. So Tom's already way ahead of me. I'm not going to fucking critique it. That's a lie. I took one note. That's what I took literally one note. You are Tom. You are all the pocket. So I'm going to tell you guys, because nobody else will care, but I'm going to make all of our listeners care.

1:27.6

I brought it up before relative to Donovan.

1:30.3

My stupid vintage audio gear hobby, I picked up refurbished.

1:34.3

I brought some pieces of equipment recently to the shop to have them rebuilt and recap, transistors replaced, like all that stuff done.

1:41.5

I picked them up today and like i could not be more excited i brought

1:46.6

him in and donovan was there and he's super interested so he runs over like see what i've got i three

1:52.1

pieces completely rebuilt and i hooked him up and like his face was all excited and he has no

1:57.0

idea that he's going to get one of these things oh yeah that's right oh yeah i right. Oh, yeah. I cannot wait. So what I was doing, like the one of them, one of them is just mine, but there's two of them that I'm like, I'd give him either one of these. These are both great. But his face lit up. I have this Harmon Cardin from 1974. I have this piece by Harmon Cardin. It's an old quadraphonic receiver and it's got this really cool joystick feature on it where you can adjust how the

2:20.0

balance of the sound goes. It's just old school as fuck. And it's really neat. And he was like sitting there fiddling with it and playing with it. And I was like, okay, that's the one. Thanks for picking out your Christmas present. And I can't wait now. I can't wait. So I'm very excited. Dude, is there anything better than being able to do the Christmas present switcheroo where someone's like, oh, that's so cool. And you're like, it's yours. Yeah, I know. That's like top five best ways to give a present. I love Christmas. I fucking love gift giving. I love gift giving. So much. And I'm like in my office recording this and this where all the gifts are. I've got like the best present for Cecil and it's just sitting over here and I stare at it every day. And I'm like, why isn't it Christmas? Why can't I give this present to it? Like under my desk is like a ton of shit for like Haley and the kids. And I'm like, God, I cannot wait to just give this shit away. I love it so much.

3:41.2

It's my favorite. Because it's also one of the nicest thoughts you can have too is just sitting there being like, what do I want to get this person? Yes. I know that I am hard to buy for. You are impossible to buy for, Eli Bosnia. Impossible. I don't think anyone in my life is hard to buy for. Everyone in my life, I constantly think about like, oh, I know they would like this. I know they would like that. So for me, it always just feels super duper easy to do that kind of stuff. Well, that's because you listen and you pay attention. That's what it takes. No, I mean, like, that's, that's what it takes. But I will say, like, I listen and I pay attention to you, and I still think you're hard to buy for, Eli Bosnia. I am very hard. I really do. Everyone in my life tells me I am hard to buy for. And I have off to the side, I've even, like, messaged your friend Rachel and been like, hey, I have this

3:57.8

idea. She's like, that's, he's already got every one of those he'll ever need. And I'm like, fucking shit. What the fuck? Yeah, you're really hard to buy for. I'll raise my hand and say, I know I'm extraordinarily hard to buy for too. Haley has a really hard time. I think everyone is, Because everyone has everything already.

4:12.4

I don't know.

4:12.9

It's either the stuff people need is not a thing you could buy for a present or they already

4:18.2

have. is because everyone has everything already. I don't know. It's either the stuff people need is not a thing you could buy for a present or they already have whatever Amazon fucking bullshit that it is. I don't know. I'm not doing all this Christmas. I'll tell you why I don't find Tom hard to buy for is because I know that Tom likes books that I recommend. Yeah. And I have an infinite well of books Tom hasn't read in my brain at any given moment. So I could just be like, and we're starting this series. Yeah, I will say, you've never failed me on a book recommendation. You never miss, baby. You're the only person I can think of where every time you've been like, you'd like this, I've really liked it. Every single time. I'm actually in the middle right now of reading a book that you recommended. And Joe Hill has a new book that just came out. I can't wait to read it, but I won't start it until I finish the last one that you recommended on the last list that you gave me. Oh, which one was that? The long way, hold on, I always get the title.

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